Its Fridayyyyy!!
Jeannie
33 lbs lost prior to surgery!
I am sorry for the loss of your grandfather. Sounds like you raised a wonderful son though.
I do not think that Lisa was saying we need to pull the cover over our heads and act as though it doesn't exist. It just seems that lately the whole dynamics of the board has changed - - just a little too depressing.
It just seems that the happy weight loss updates (with photos of course), recipes, and overall WLS experiences, etc are not as dominant on the boards anymore. I am not saying prayer requests/ OT sad stories should go away at all, but I really enjoyed reading posts about WLS and it seems the posts are becoming fewer and fewer. For alot of newbies we rely on this information to help us with our journey. Just a good mix of everything keeps the board fresh.
Revision from a VBG in '96
SW/380 CW/260 GW/140
Lisa,
I've been thinking about this post since I read it yesterday and I had to wonder if I misunderstood your post... but it seems if I have so have several others. I have some thoughts to share about your response:
We all need prayer, some more than others and I cannot emphasize enough. But i have to ask is this the purpose of the board? I feel the whole dynamics of the board has changed drastically from when I first came here.
The purpose of the board is to show love and support of others in need of help. It is an online support group for people who are or have been obese. If someone is depressed or having a hard time with their life we get on here and share it and hope that someone has been in our shoes and can help us with the situation. Most importantly if I'm getting help I'm NOT EATING or abusing my body. Some times we just need a fresh set of eyes and ears.
In all families we have to experience all the bad stuff that happens to really good people, and people have to go somewhere for support so they can deal with their emotions and eating disorders, but I ask it this the correct venue?
If I can't share my thought, emotions, truimphs and set back with the people here - where should I share it? Where is the correct venue? We've established friendships here on the board and we share quite a bit of stuff on here. That's why I don't read every post everyday. I pick and choose the stuff I read at work verses what I read at home verses what I don't ever read.
So still I'm wondering if I missed your point? I'm sure it wasn't to make 1/2 the board mad and make them feel like you aren't a caring, compassionate person.
Frankie
highest wgt/ day of surgery/ current wgt / goal wgt
52 lbs lost before surgery!!
I really appreciate your response. You stated it very well. I am not against prayer or people coming to the board for support - that is what it is for. I was merely stating an observation that there was a change and posed those questions. You answered them without telling me I can go somewhere else, if I did not like it. (Some true colors were really spotlighted in response to my post)
I am no longer belaboring the issue.
You would not believe the number of personal messages I received from people understanding my post but would not post publically, because of being ostracized.
I have taken some really good advise and decided not to read every post and I also have learned to use the BLOCK button as well. It works beautifully.
Thanks so much for your response.
My little man has a double ear infection and I haven't had much time to myself to get on here. I wish I could do more for him. I just hate to see him hurting.
I've made all of my appointments that I need in order to submit to insurance so I'm pretty excited about that. Still have a good while but at least I have some things to look forward to.
Love to all
Ayreka
Pretty narrow minded to block someone the first time they don't agree with you.
I stand by my previous statements - this is a support board. More goes on in our lives than simply losing weight. If that were not the case, most of us wouldn't have had a weight problem.
If we can't come here to get support rather than soothing ourselves with food, where should we go?
We post about the good things, the bad things, and the just plain irritating things. I, for one, am glad we have this outlet.
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