Family thinks I'm taking the easy way and being lazy

I'm so disapointed that my family thinks that I'm being lazy having surgery. I swear they think its some magical thing that will make me skinny without any work. I know there isn't really anything I can do to prove to them otherwise except wait for them to watch me go through it. It would be nice to have more positive support though. Its like they don't mind me having it but they just think I'm a bum So sad

1 word response....
Jealous!
Are a few of them overweight themselves perhaps?

The funny thing is that all of them are overweight except for my mother and she is the one who said I was being lazy and just needed to move my ass more I know my sister is reacting poorly out of jealousy.

At least I've got some uncles and aunts and my hubby And you girls

Thank goodness for this support group. People seem to have such strong reaction to WLS. Maybe it is jelousy. I don't know. It is anything but the easy way out. I went to a Dr. last summer who specializes in weight loss. I followed  the diet instructions to a letter and excercised like crazy only to lose 12 lbs in six months. How frustrating. This is not easy, but for some of us it is the only way. Only those who have been thru it can understand. I am so grateful for the ladies on this web site. You hang in there. We knoow you are not taking the easy way out. You are doing a very brave thing! Wendy

I have skinny sils who felt that i was taking the easy way out.
Til they seen the lifestyle changes and things i would have to do and they begin to realize the surgery was a tool to help me lose the keeping it off and maintaining was all up to me.
I wish there was a magic pill you could take but there isnt and just remember sweetie you are doing this for you and not them and as Shanna said jealousssssssssss.
Good luck sweetie

There may well be some jealousy. I remember when I first heard about WLS. I was intrigued, until I learned my policy specifically excluded it. Then I had nothing good to say about the idea of WLS. I wanted it for me, but couldn't get it, so I had to think it bad, for my own self-preservation, so to speak. Once I got a different job, and the time limit for supervised dieting was moved down to a managable 6 months, my mind was in a totally different place.

Hard for me to imagine why the thin people think it so bad though. My guess? They don't want 'competition'. It's much more comfortable with us being the fat ones, and they get to feel superior in some way.

It so aggravates me when fools say it is the easy way out!!  Nothing could be farther from the truth.

The only accurate thing to say is that it is the fastest way out.  There's nothing easy about it.

I agree - jealousy is rearing its ugly head.  We're here to be your second family and support you in any way we can.

My sister gives me such a hard time to this very day about my surgery.  She has said the most awful things to me, but I have to remind myself that she is probably just feeling a bit left behind because we were always big girls together.  We shopped together and shared our clothes, we went shopping the other day to Fashion Bug and we had to go our seperate ways, her to the plus side and me to the misses and it was sad for me so I imagine it was even harder for her.  Every time I see her she reminds me of how old I am looking since surgery, my face and neck does have some wrinkles that I didn't have pre surgery, I don't like it but its easier than being 100+ lbs heavier. 

Perhaps your mother would take the time to go to a support group or your consult with you.  I have found the best thing I can do for myself to have the nay sayers leave me alone is to never talk about my surgery or my weight loss when they are around.  Its hard to do especially at your stage because its so exciting to think you may have a chance to change the way you live your life but really its the only way.  I am sure your mother loves you and is just being worried and don't know how to express that.  You can go to YouTube and watch the surgery being preformed, have your mom watch that and see if she still thinks its easy lol.

Jeannie

ayreka,

i agree with everyone on here...
i think part of it IS jealousy.  i know until i could actually have the surgery i would say things to "put it down", but then i got insurance that would cover it and of course i got over that real fast.

as far as your mother, if someone has never been obese, they can not truly understand everything that goes along with it...being tired ALL the time, feeling like the "fat" kid, lets see...emmmmmm diabetes, high blood pressure, aching joints, higher risks of heart attack, stroke and cancer....
would you wanna risk those things just b/c some ppl said "you took the easy way out"....

you need to surround yourself w/ ppl like US... a great support system and let the naysayers say what they will...you are doing this for YOU, not b/c of what they think

keep your chin up ladybug... it'll be OK

Send them to this site and let them see for themselves.. THERE IS NO EASY WAY.. just a different way. WLS was one of the most life long difficult things I have ever done..

For life you are giving up on some foods... even if you decide just a small bite it could make you ill..( Oh I remember how beef hurt me for the first year) Do you want to take the chance? You are signing up to take a handful of vitamins a day spaced out so they all deliver what they need to so your body gets what it needs.

You might loose some hair, you will need a change of wardrobes about every month for a while (hense the clothing exchanges)

I could give you and them lists of reasons this isnt the "easy way".. and shame on them for thinking that and even trying to bring you down for mentioning it. Dont be sad.. rise above it because you know better...and you have a terrific support team here and at your local support group you should be going to.

Linda Kay