needing some advice

I attended my pre-op class yesterday and I came out of there feeling very good as most questions I had were answered.

 As I get closer to surgery there is one thing that keeps lingering in my mind so I am hoping that someone else can help. I keep thinking about how many diets I have tried and failed at. I get scared about not having any will power after surgery and failing at this also.  I mean if I cannot make myself stop eating now how am I going to make myself stop afterwards? What if I never feel full? Wonder if I am one of those people that can tolerate anything and never dump or feel sick?  If I fail at this than I would be devastated.  But I am devastated every time I fail at a diet or I pick up that huge piece of cake or bag of potato chips.

I hope that I am not alone in these feelings. Did all of you post op remember feeling anything like this before you went?

Beth

Wow, talk about flashbacks!!!  I felt exactly like that!  But believe me, I have been able to do this and I was so scared I too would fail!  I get the full feelings but it took a while after my surgery to know my pouch well enough.  I got the sick feeling when I ate too fast or too much.  So don't worry, you will get fine tuned to your pouch and be able to work it.

I have never dumped so far, but let me also say, I am too scared to pu**** and don't want to anyway!  I know that the sugary sweets were part of my downfall and I dont ever wanna go back there.  So I CHOOSE not to eat that stuff.  That's amazing to me, because I had no will power before surgery at all!!!!  Now it's become natural to me.  I don't really miss that stuff and have been faced with it thousands of times already.  I just dont want it.

So, don't doubt yourself, keep a positive attitude and you won't regret doing this! 

Good luck!

Huge hugs,
Tracy

Oh Beth, I so remember feeling that way, and still do at times. I can tell you that for me, I am mad that I don't get hungry. I so want something yummy to eat, but am just not hungry. This makes me not even want to eat anything. Got the boys chocolate chip cookies today, thought "hmm, yum, wonder how that would taste?" then realized that I'm not the least bit hungry and don't want them! I have not yet dumped, but haven't yet tempted fate either. I haven't eaten anything that I thought might make me dump. I chose the RNY because I needed the dumping, but didn't realize til right before my surgery that some people don't dump. Darn, that better not be me! I knew that I needed to feel like crap if I ate something I shouldn't in an effort to keep myself from eating it again.

I know of people who have had surgery who purposely ate something that should make them dump just to see if it would. I don't want anything that badly! ;o) You need to believe in yourself, know that this tool will help you be successful, but it is just that, a tool! You still have to watch what you eat, read labels, and think about everything decision you make when putting stuff in your mouth! I have found that while I don't want food, this surgery has given me the ability to not want to cheat for fear of what would happen.  In the past when I've failed at diets, I didn't have the fear of what would happen to my body if I ate something I knew I shouldn't. hang in there and lets get together for dinner before your surgery. Let me know your availability!!

Sweetie
All kinds of things will go thru your head.
But i wondered the same thing,i grew up with the clean your plate guilt trip.
I wondered how i would handle it well my body lets me know when its enough and ive learned not to pu****
You know the ad for lays you cant eat just one potato chip well before i couldnt i would eat the whole bag,well yesterday the boys had sour cream and onion and i had to try well i could only eat just one.
At Christmas i took a bite of fudge and omg i was flat on my back with my head spinning (felt like i had dranka fifth of jack)but it was my bodys way of letting me know enough fool.
So the surgery is the best tool as far as i was concerned i have no willpower but now my body does.
Good luck.

Beth,

Yes, I felt the same why you do, before I had my surgery and I still feel that way. Will power has never been one of my strong point.   I am one of those people that can tolerate anything, sweets, fried foods, etc, and it was easy for me to slip off the wagon when I went through some depression. I started putting weight back on, and I have no one to blame but myself, because once again in my life I allowed food to control me and I felt like a failure.

I am still battling some depression but I am feeling better about myself.  I have started getting back on track.  My new years resolution was to start getting back on the losing side.  I have lost about 10 pounds since January, I am 3 years post-op tomorrow, and it is harder now to take of the weight then 2 years ago.  I had stopped posting here (a big mistake) I was not attending support group anywhere and I was eating whatever I wanted and no****ching fat, calories, etc.  I had stopped going to the YMCA to exercise or even getting on the treadmill I have in my front room. I even stopped going to see Dr Huse.   I finally hit rock bottom AGAIN and said no more, I have to do this for me, because no else can. 

I started getting back on here and posting everyday just about, these people on here are wonderful, and there is usually someone on here through out the entire day.  They give alot of encouragement and will also give you a kick to get you started if need be.  Thanks to Tracy she has gotten a support group start here in Marion and our first meeting is next Tuesday, I am so excite.  I have start using the YMCA just about everyday, instead of just paying my membership every month.  My workout has gone from 30 minutes from the first part of January to almost 2 hours now.  I have increased on alot of the machines (both by weight and numbers of sets), but before I started back into any of this I was seeing where the weight was affecting my health again, that is what I did not want.  I have 3 beautiful grandchildren that I want to see grow up, so I keep them in mine when I want to stop. 

This is not and easy way out.  I heard that from people before I had the surgery, weight lose surgery is a tool to assist us, and we have to work hard for the rest of our life's to keep our blessed tool a working. 

Beth with this tool, there are going to be good times and bad times, you will have ups and downs, but do not allow yourself to let go.  Keep your support system close by and if you feel that your will power is slipping then ask for help.  Post on here, or call one of us, we can try to help. Go to support groups, get to know people from OH (clothing exchanges, lunches, dinners, outing), etc. There is usually something going on somewhere. 

I hope I am not sounding discouraging here, because I would not trade my WLS for anything, it has saved my life, and gave me a meaning to life again, and I have to keep that in mind when I go for those chips, cookies, cakes. 

I hope this helps.

Peggy

i am having my surgrey mar.24 i feel the same way but i need this as tool tohelp me lose the weight and get healhty

WHAT I am wondering since i am just beginning to start the journey to have this done. What if one takes a bite of a sweet  chews it and then spits it out? will this still cause the DUMPING to happen since the juices will still be in ones mouth? this i have wondered about.

what i want to know since i am just starting the journey for RNY and not even been to the Psych yet (go next week)  what if one takes a bite of a sweet/chews it up and spits it out. WIll the juices from this still in the mouth cause dumping? i have wondered about this.

thats a good question i dont think were able to spit it out

that was something i just wondered about. Thinking....well it will give me the taste..to clear mouth out so lately while trying to lose beforehand, i take a few chews on something sweet and spit whatever out.