Why do they wonna change him

I need some opinons please
My 16 year old son has a very mild learning diability,he is a freshman(held back in kin/1 for his speech).
He is getting excellent grades in biology and german,alegra plus all the basic classes.He gets no special classes or help.
But he daydreams so they thought he maybe a.d.d so they have him monitored by a school phys.
Yesterday we got the results from all his teachers and etc,and i am so angry one of his teachers said he was odd and immature and was lacking in his social skills.
So when they called to schedule a meeting i went off and ask what in the world do they want out of this child,he is a good kid,he has friends,has a steady gfriend, goes to church,he is the first to help if you need it example holding the door for his elders if he is waiting in the checkout lane and he has someone near him with children he lets them go in front of him(i think its so he can play around with the little ones)but do you see where im going?
He is no saint but when he is in a group of kids he does get easily annoyed by their behaviors and if they make fun of someone its on..
So the teacher says to me mam we want his behavior to be accustom to his peers wth lady ,keep on and he will and then when he acts up and causes a scene he will be in juvy.Its in his school records since 1st grade that he is mature for his age and that his peers easily anoy him..
What im asking is do you all think the school is making to much out of him being so diffrent or do i have a right to *****
I went thru this with my 25 yr old ,after 8th grade i took him out and he was home schooled and today he is still quiet around strangers ,but he works 40 hours a week and leads a normal life.
But with Andy he is taking college courses so he can go to school to be an r.n. and i dont wonna ruin that by home schooling him....
Please i know some of you are teachers and maybe you can help me understand what is going on..
I am afraid if they keep pushing im gonna be the one acting up...

Lisa - hang in there!  I have a son with a mental handicap - you met him when you picked up that bed.

You have to fight for your child.  From what you say, he has Raynaud's syndrome.  Maybe it would help if you took with you to the meeting info printed out from the internet about it to his teacher?

She says he's odd and immature?  Hell's bells - aren't most teenage boys?  Give me a break!  He just doesn't fit into her "mold" of what she thinks he should be. 

You go girl!

Christie, did you mean to say Asperger's syndrome?  Raynaud's is something else entirely.  Maybe he does, but be careful to make a diagnosis based on internet research.

I said Raynaud's because in another thread Lisa wrote that he had :


He has reynaurds syndrome(spelled wrong) 

I wasn't making any diagnosis - just mentioning to Lisa that she could print out information on it to show the school and perhaps educate them a bit.

Yep Christie
He does have reynards (i need to learn how to spell it) syndrome.
Everyone is asking me if he has aspergers syndrome?
I read up on it all afternoon and im gonna ask his doc about it.Thanks babe i knew what you meant..
lots of love christie

Lisa,

I think it was an inappropriate thing for a teacher to say. I also think it was inappropriate for this diagnosis to be made by a school physician instead of the school requesting that you have your son observed by his OWN physician. That is what I would do..I would take him to his own physician and ask for a recommendation/referel to have him properly observed & diagnosed. If there is an issue there, it needs to be confronted...but if it is just that your son has his own personality, then he should be allowed to embrace that without anyone trying to make him feel like he shouldn't be the way he is.

BTW...if there is something to it, it could make it difficult for him to study to become an RN if left untreated. So...I would definately want to be sure that his daydreaming is just out of boredom (mine was in high school) and not ADDs.

Sherri

Thanks guys
Sherry thats just it his own doctors say he is a typical reserved child who gets easily annoyed(not distracted) i took the letter to the drs with me and she was livid.
He just has Neils personality l(thank god he dont have mine).
He tells me he daydreams but he says mom my work is done and he has a" and B"s  he has the highest grade point ave in her class.go figure
When he was born he was born face up and the drs told me he would always see the world in a diffrent light,he would always see the good in everyone and thing.
He does it amazes me he is never negative ,but as i told the counselor and the physicatrist (schools) he is who he is and please dont try to change him.
You all will see him Saturday and you will see that he is just a quiet kid who does not raise his voice or ruffle feathers,now his bro thats a diffrent story  (he is like me).
But the doctor ask for Andys school records she wants to go over them...
But thanks i wonna know im not a nut case

Lisa I feel for you, your family and your son.  I would be fit to be tied if the school were trying to diagnose my child.  A teaching degree is not a doctor degree and she/he has no business trying to play doctor.  I would go by what my child's physic an says and leave it at that.  Tell the school thank you for your concern for my child, I have addressed those issues with my child's physic an and have followed his recommendations...end of story.

My son is 14, he marches to a different drummer.  He is a brilliant kid but does not want to conform to the rules of society at all.  He does not want to be like "everyone" else.  He struggles with ways to be independent and express himself.  He writes poetry elegantly but its very dark poetry so his teachers, councelors, principals and other parents call me all the time to express their concerns for him.  I know my child they don't so I politely thank them for their concern and move on.  Just last week the counselor from the high school called me to tell me that two teachers had come forward and mentioned my son as someone who may have suicidal tendencies.  I thanked her for her concern, then talked to my son that evening and moved on. 

Jeannie

Jeannie
Thats why i took Joey out after 8th grade they kept saying he was depressed to the point he was starting to beleive he ws.
I went to Andys teachers and past ped doctors and im taking that with me and telling them this has to stop i dont want himon any list or anything he can do the work and he is socially fine (as far as we can all see).
I didnt want you all to think i was whining i just knew you all are parents to.
I tried to tell them if we were all alike the world would be a boring place and im happy he got the help he needed when he was in k/1 with his speech but he stays in the program i geuss til he graduates..
Thanks for your advice and opinons i felt like i was just being a over protective mom...

I don't think your whinning at all.  We all love our children and want nothing but the best for them.  I took my son to the therapist last year after they called him "depressed" at school. He was not diagnoised as being depressed (imagine that). 
I am an over protective mom, I know that.  I have been called a "helicopter mom" but I can't help it. He is my last child and I want things to be good for him while he is in my home.  Some of my worst memories are of childhood and I want much more than that for my children.  I have worked hard to have happy healthy well adjusted children.  If I have to step on a few toes or raise a lil hell along the way so be it.  You keep your chin up and stand tall and firm for your babies so what if your seen as overprotective thats just another label that society choses for us to me its just being a loving mom.

Jeannie