Ending the year with a sad heart....

I am home for a brief time and jumped on here to quickly update. My world is spinning and my time online sparce for a while now.......Sunday the 28th my father fell after fellowshipping with his and mother's church group outside of pizza hut in Monticello. Day hit the pavement so hard and due to taking blood thinners for his knee operations, he had a catastrophic brain hemoridge and passed away early Monday morning in Home Hospital, Lafayette In. We were all with him in the icu even as he slept and shared his last moments even as he did not respond. This man has bee nthe greatest person in my life and my heart is breaking with the loss of him. My mom has been so frail and slipping, we were so worried about her and now here Dad was so robust, alert and healthy and now gone. I trust God for his timing in this and know this is as it should be but my heart isd breaking. Dad's viewing is tomorrow Wed the 31st from 4 to 8 in Monticello, IN at the springer funeral home and he will have his service on the 1st at 2 pm. I will send the link here if you would like to read his obituary. He was truly a gift to me and my life has been so wonderful because of the love he and my mother gave me. I will be back and forth alot in the next few weeks helping with my brother to take care of our mother. They were married for 65 years and to say she will be lost is a huge understatement. My dear OH family please keep us in your prayers and thank you for being there for me. My wish for all of you for the new year is to have a love as wonderful in your life as I have been blessed with in mine.
Hugs to you all!
Marianne
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Henry C. "Jack" Curbox (April 28, 1919 - December 29, 2008) Guest Book | Sign Guest Book Henry C. "Jack" Curbox, 89, of Monticello, passed away at 3:35 a.m., Monday, December 29, 2008 at Home Hospital, Lafayette. He was born April 28, 1919 in Thorntown to the late George Ira and Bertha Belle(Suiters)Curbox His marriage was to Rosemary Anwiler. They were married at the First Christian Church in Monticello, and had been married 65 years. She survives. Mr. Curbox attended Monticello High School. He was in the Army Medic Corp during WWII. He worked for RCA as a foreman for shipping and receiving and retired after 45 years of service. He was a member of the Calvary Temple in Monticello. He was County Trustee for several years. Jack loved being outdoors and mowing lawns. He was an avid IU and Purdue Basketball fan. He enjoyed working around the house and doing his "honey do" list. He was a loving husband, father, and grandpa. Other survivors include: Son, Dan Curbox of Monticello Daughter, Marianne (Jon) Fryar of New Whiteland, IN Sister-in-law, Frances Curbox of Monticello, IN 2 Grandsons, Brent (Angel) Curbox of Mooresville, IN, Jason (Jenn) Fryar of New Whiteland, IN 4 Granddaughters, Autum (Steve) Reames of Monticello, IN, Melody (Matt) Gruber of Fishers, IN, Courtney Simmons of Indianapolis, IN, Ashley Simmons of Indianapolis, IN 4 Great-Grandchildren, Jasmine Reames, Tean Reames, Clayton Reames, Ezekeil Gruber He was preceded in death by his parents; 2 brothers, Paul and Brooks Curbox and Sister, Wanda Hughes. Visitation will be from 4-8 p.m. Wednesday, December 31, 2008 at Springer-Voorhis-Draper Funeral Home. Funeral services will be at funeral home, Thursday, January 1, 2009, at 2 p.m. with Pastor Steve Smith of the Calvery Temple officiating. Burial will at Riverview I.O.O.F. Cemetery, rural Monticello with full Military Rites held at the graveside. Memorials may be made to the Salvation Army. Envelopes will be available at the funeral home. To sign the online guestbook, visit: www.springervoorhisdraper.com

Aww sweetie
Im so sorry for your families loss.
He sounds like a wonderful loving man and sounds like you were blessed.
I dont know what i will do without my dad.
65 years is along time together,my heart goes out to your mama.
You know heaven just received some special angels lately Sherrys mil Jean and your daddy..
Big huggs and lots of prayers.

Marianne,

So sorry for your loss.  He sounds like a gem of a husband and father.  We just never know what happens over here on this side, but I'm sure God has a plan.  We will keep you, your mother, and the family in our prayers. 

Take care,
Christina

Marianne
You and your family are in my prayers.  So sorry for your loss. 
Andrea

I'm so sorry, Marianne. I'm lifting you and your family up in prayer.

Jenny

Marianne,

I am so sorry to read this. I know Jack is going to be missed greatly by everyone...especially by your mother. I can't imagine being with someone for 65 years. The thought of being without them though after that amount of time is more than I can really wrap my mind around.

God knows better than we do how one would be able to handle the death of someone. When my sister died, we all thought my mom would fall to pieces...but she didn't. She showed all of us that she was alot stronger than we had believed.

My dh Bill...his dad (also named Bill) was the type of guy who was the 'man's man' while his mom was a breast cancer survivor (early 70's), typical of the 70's housewife except she did work outside of the home (an executive secretary) but she depended upon Bill greatly. He passed away in '93. While her kids watched closely, afraid Mom would fall apart, she pulled herself together and made plans to keep herself busy. Jean loved to travel, bowl, and play cards. When she could no longer handling traveling, she loved watching shows. At 82 yr old, she met up with Bob, her HS sweetheart and they were inseparable. She and Bob were regulars at the local dinner theaters. Jean passed away on Dec. 20th and her services were this past Monday. We are all going to miss her very much. We have the comfort of knowing that she had a long full life and lived it to the fullest. She did not suffer, nor was she in pain when she passed away.

Honey, I know that in every little girl's eyes, Daddy is the strongest man she knows. And I also know that in the mature caring daughter's view, we worry about just how much grief our mother can handle. I think that if Jean had died before Bill, Bill would have totally lost it. He was a wonderful father, grandfather, and husband...but I also believe that he had a big heart that he kept hidden from most and it would have destroyed the man he was to lose his Jean and have to live without her. While Jean made lemonade, I'm not so sure he could had. So hon, your dad is in Heaven waiting on your mother to join him. I think your mom will surprise you with the strength she has.

I know this year has been a rough year for you. Although you weren't close to your birth mother, you were to your sister and so you shared her grief. I also know that your parents, Jack and Rosemary, are more special to you than most of our parents are to us because they chose you. It wasn't a 'oops..uh, we're pregnant'. It was a 'awe..look! She is so precious! Let's be her Mommy & Daddy'. Perhaps that is why many of us are closer to our friends than our siblings....because friendships are chosen. As you are going through this Marianne, know that your friends here are praying for you and keeping you in their thoughts. We love you sweetie.

Sherri

Marianne,

I am so sorry for your loss.  Your father sounds like he was such a wonderful person and I'm sure he will be greatly missed by his family and friends. 

Sending hugs and prayers for God's peace to fill your hearts and loving memories to bring you joy and laughter through this time of sorrow.

Julie

Marianne,

I'm so sorry for your loss of your dad!  I lost my father 7 days before my WLS and it was one of the hardest things to happen to me.  My mother had passed away a couple years before and he was ready to be with her.

But I have the faith that they both are in Heaven right now as companions!  I recently read "90 minutes in Heaven" by Don Piper.  It also made it easier just with his description of what Heaven looked like!

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.  He sounded like a very, very special man!

Blessings,

Lois K.

I am so sorry for your loss.  It's just so difficult to imagine why things happen the way they do.  We had the same kind of thing happen with my family when Daddy's health was seemingly failing quickly... My mom came down with Liver Cancer and was gone in 4 short weeks.  Daddy is still kicking... with one leg now but he is fiestier more now than then.  I know Mom couldn't have handled the past 10 years and 24 surgeries Daddy has had to endure.  God took care of her and allowed her not to suffer through a horrible disease.  I feel blessed that she is with me and watching over me from Heaven everyday.

Your Dad was blessed with having a very special daughter brought to his life so that they could love you so much.  I can only imagine how very proud he was everyday to see your smiling face as he watched you grow up.  You were a gift from God to them.  And at the same time, God blessed you with awesome parents. 

I will pray for you and your family.  I hope your mother can find God's peace and he will carry the burden of her sorrow. 

Take care!

Huge hugs,
Tracy

Marianne, I'm so sorry for your loss. It's obvious by the way you speak about him how special you were to each other. He will be greatly missed by everyone who knew him I'm sure. I will keep you and your family (especially your mother) in my prayers during this difficult time.