am I wrong?

here i am having major surgery tomorrow and my husband wants to leave and go to work afterwards!  i'm still going to be a little scared and nervous, and needing him to stay with me..............am i wrong for wanting him to stay? 

jeanna

NO!  My husband had to go... he had no choice.  But my oldest daughter came up and stayed with me.  I didn't want to be alone.  It's pretty normal feelings I think.

Does he know how you feel about it?

yes, he says i'm wrong and he's pissed off! i'm making my son come sit w/me! thanks for being on my side.

I understand your feelings, make sure he knows how you feel. Is there anyone else that could be with you if he "has" to leave? My husband is going to work the morning (my surgery is at 1:45) then come with me to the hospital. He is going home that evening and working the next day and will pick me up when it's time to come home. He doesn't have any vacation time left and since I will be off, can't afford to have him taking unpaid days too.

I won't like it but I have myself prepared for it.

You aren't wrong.  I want my husband to stay too.  He didn't want to at first, but finally changed his mind.

  Maybe being without him won't be such a big deal if you have someone else sit with you.  Remember you both are under a serious amount of stress right now, with a major surgery about to happen, its time to pull together and compromise.  If he needs to leave then let him go in peace, you will be fine and drugged so you  will probably sleep during that time anyway.  My husband had to leave me also to care for our son, thats just the way it was, like it or not.  I actually was kinda glad to have the alone time while he was gone.

Jeannie

You are there as I answer this.  Guys are different.  We ignore and things and go away.  I had my surgery and wanted to be alone I could not show I needed help.  Oh well be gentle and all will go as God provides.  Becky has been a real helpmate.

E

Personally, the last person I wanted with me was my husband... I told him to stay long enough to wake me and tell me I'm alive then remember to pick me up the day I come home.. Having him around waiting for me to need me would have been a pain in the butt. I dozed... walked, talked to my nurses.. talked to friends in the hall I had just met and.. just didnt need him there.... I needed him when I got home... My opinion..

Linda Kay