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Well...looks like we are all in agreement...Bill...you are a butthead! Brenda...you ARE about to be a grandma...don't let what he says dampen your feelings! My daughters are still a part of their stepmothers family and when Braedyn came along you can bet she was right next to her when she was in labor and stayed until 4 am waiting for his appearance! She IS his grandmother...just like you will be. I do not know what your relationship is with this young man, but perhaps they should let Bill know exactly who your actually are in all this and I can bet that they will say you will be the grandmother just as much as his own mother is!  (((((to Brenda))))))

PS...My daughter that had the baby just read this and asked me to tell you that was mean thing to say and you can be her baby's grandma if you want to. She says babies need all kinds of love...damn that girl amazes me!  

If I were you, I would make it perfectly clear that YOU are more of a grandmother-to-be than his ex-wife will be, since you have been the woman to put up with all of BILL'S crap that has come out of HIS mouth!!!  We commend you and congratulate YOU anyway, because you deserve it more than Bill and the ex does!  Anyway, didn't they call YOU yesterday morning????  Hello, what an absolute A$$!!!  Thats just my opinion, but I do feel that everyone else agrees!  You should be happier now than ever before, because you are the one they called!  That means they consider you to be someone very important in the future of thier unborn child!  I hope that Bill sees this and comes to his blockhead sences!!! 
Love ya!

Oh my Sister,
 My heart is just bleeding for you! How dare he??? That was- hurtful, rude, insensitive and down right a mean spirited thing to say- especially to you- who is suppose to be his beloved! Oh hon, you didn't deserve this- and it is a good thing I live so far away, cause if I lived closer I'd be on your doorstep to kick his big, mean butt!!!!! I would definately tell him how he hurt you with his words/actions!!!!Unless you address it, he will do it again & again, maybe not like this, but in other ways. I know that verbal abuse hurt me more than physical abuse in the past, & it leaves huge holes/scars in your heart only Jesus can fill!  Please know I will be in vigilant prayer for you. God is your husband & you are His BELOVED!!! Let Bill know where you stand and that it has to stop- he is out of the will of God in this!!!

    "I have 2 "grafted in grandsons" and love them both deeply as all of my other 9 grandkids! My oldest daughter couldn't have children, met her hubby who had full custody of his son, who was 5 at the time. When they married he asked her "can I call you "MOMMY"???? Oh my gosh, not a dry eye in the group- then he came to Dana & I and said-" that makes you my  Grammy & Pappy! " The tears of joy flowed. Now he has grandparents ( his mothers) as well as had his paternal Grandma in his life for yrs. but- who does he call/ spend time with/ and love just as much? US!! I love him so muchand no- there is no "blood" just pure love. Also, my middle faughter married a man who had a 15yr. old boy. He calls us Grandpa & Grandma, too!I told him when we met that he could call us by our names, since he already was 15, has 2 sets of grandparents- but he said" no way". Penny is my step-mom and so that makes you my grandparents! Love him to death, too!
 
SO, now, you shake it off girl!You are the babie's Grandma!!!! As stated before "Blood is nice but love is what makes grandparents! 

Call me anytime Sister, you've got my numbers.  I am here for you & love you!!!

Smooches,xoxoxoxox ((((((((hugs,)))))))) love, prayers, & blessings coming your way,
Ellen

So sorry your husband said this to you and thinks that way!  That just gets me right to the core!  Grrr!!!  Love makes a family and if he can't see that, I feel sorry for him!  My husband and I are in the process of  a very difficult adoption...obviously. we are not our childrens' biological parents  (hence, that's why it's called adoption), but does this make us any less of their parents because I didn't carry them in my womb???  I don't think so!!!  These precious little ones are forever grown in our hearts!   
People say mean things without even realizing it sometimes.  We try to ignore it, but it would be so difficult hearing it in my own home.   Besides whatever your husband says, the parents of this child love you and want you to be a part of their lives and their child's life.  They don't care about titles and I sincerely doubt YOUR GRANDBABY will either!!  Don't let Bill or anyone else spoil your joy!  This is a moment to celebrate.  In today's world this child will need all the love and support he/she can get.  
Love and prayers, 
Christina    

Christina, I want to congratulate you and hubby for finding the love you share with your children. I understand adoption since my one and only neice was adopted. We got her when she was 7 weeks old. It was a high risk adoption because her biological father never signed the rights away. He was married and never even knew if she was a boy or girl. With him not signing the rights away it meant that he could at any time come in and say that he changed his mind and wanted her. Thanks be to God that he never did. My wonderful neice and Godchild is now going to be 28 years old on October 31, yes she is a Halloween baby. I always told her that she was my witch, sometimes a good one and sometimes not. We have a very close relationship and bond. She is one of my greatest supporters and friends. I love her so much that sometimes it hurts. Especially when she finds herself in predicaments that hurt her. And at times that happens a lot. I am so glad that you found the love of your children and it makes no difference whether they are blood or not. Unfortunately some people don't see it that way and it is their loss. It is a shame that their life is so narrow that they don't see that.

Brenda, my heart sank when I read the title of your post because I thought you were announcing that she had miscarried, but I was furious when I read the content of your post!  That was a very cruel thing that your husband said.  Just remind yourself that you were the one that got the phone call so his son obviously thought of you as the future grandma.  Just say a few extra prayers for Bill that he will see how badly he hurt you.  Hugs to you.  Karen

You let hubby change a few of the dirty diapers when you get called on to babysit and you let hubby go out and shop for the necessary presents... You will be grandma soon enough. Some men can be such an ass! I had a "step" grandma...calling her "step" just wasnt right...so we didnt. "Helen" didnt treat us any different than the regular birth grandkids..

Grandma isnt by birth it is by the heart....I have been an aunt almost all my life because the size and age of my family... the first time I started saying it to my grandkids I said come to aunt Linda!! heheh

Linda Kay

Sweetheart you and I are both grandmas.  My son married a dear gal who had a son from a previous relationship.  Zachary is my grandson.  My husband adopted his ex-wife's children when they married and his youngest, my step-son, has a beautiful daughter.  Zoe is my grandaughter.
Relationships are about love, not bloodlines.  I just spent the weekend with my "blood" relatives and believe me, blood doesn't mean a thing.  But that's a VERY long story for another time.  You just go ahead and be a grandma and enjoy it!

 First thing I'd teach that grandbaby is to kick old "CRAP PA" in the shins!

Brenda,

I had 5 grandmas.  I was closest to my dad's mother and my stepmother's stepmother!  So, you just remember you will be that baby's grandma no matter what anyone else says.  As long as you love him/her like a grandchild, no one will be able to tell him or her any different and that comes from the step-step-grandaughter of one of the sweetest grandmas in the world!