Needing to vent again

HI! as some of you know my brother moved in with my husband and myself. He also has terminal liver cancer and is in the end stage. Well some of you all know that since my RNY I have been nauseated 24/7. Well with my brother here and vomitting it is just that much more difficult to keep down my food or dishes. I also made a decision that I can't stand to see him suffer and slowly die. SO this fat chick is not going to be the responsible one. I am now the guilty one. I am sending him to a hospice center. Could you pray for us we really need it.  

I am so sorry you are going through this.  Please don't be hard on yourself for having to use hospice they are experienced with this situation and way better equpiped to handle his illness.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers during this most difficult time. Jeannie

I'm sorry you have to make that choice, and that you are feeling badly for having to make that choice. I hope it all works out for the best for all of you. I did hospice research in my Health Psychology class in college, and it was really a good choice for alot of people. They found it was a very satisfying way to end their lives, with the care they received.  Hugs,

My prayers are with you and your family.  It is not easy to watch a loved one go through the process of dying.  You have to remember to take care of yourself as well.  Hugs to you!

Awww honey...you are making the best decision for YOU, and that's all that matters.  I will definitely be praying for you all, and for peace for you with this decision.  Hospice care will be a Godsend for you all. 

Your brother has some very detailed care he needs right now it is NOT at all wrong for you to "send him". He needs special care. WE have wonderful Christian family in our church this lady would do anything for anyone but she knew she couldn't give her son, her special wonderful son, the tender care he needed during his end time, she sent her son to a hospice center. Of course she visited him daily and spent his last day with him, but the nurses and hospice people know how to handle these days with special love and care doing what needs to be done so the family can spend their time adjusting and saying good bye. My older nephew was in hospice when he called me one day asking me my opinion of funeral songs because he was writing and planning his own funeral. You have issues yourself that need taking care of but that does not mean you care less for your brother. It means you care enough to give him the help he needs to leave this world with dignity. Don't beat yourself up! Linda Kay

You and your family remain in my prayers. It is not easy seeing a loved one go through the death process. It is a good choice to go with Hospice since you are not physically able to do this. There is a lot of emotional upheavel that goes with this process too. I am so glad that my mom was is hospice. They take care of your loved one with so much loving care. It is almost like they are part of their own family. They can do thing that as time comes would be very hared for you to do. It doesn't mean that you are a bad person, rather it means that you are a caring sister since you know your own limitations and want the best for him. You are taking the best care for your brother, just treasure him while you have him and my prayers are with all of you.

((((hus for Michelle))))) There is not alot more I can say that the others have not said. I know you have struggled with this and your decision is best for all. You are a hell of a woman, sister, and friend to him to make this decision. It takes a special person to do that. My thoughts and prayers are sent your way! There is no guilt in your decision...just alot of love and compassion.

I just want to thank all of you for being so supportive and trying to make me feel better about my decision! The hospice nurse was here to see him again today and has set him up with a facility in Tipton. He just looks so patetic laying there. I just want him to be comfortable and have the kind of care I can't give him. You know we never got along and I regret that but can't turn back time. He never was a responsible person because as we know that is reserved for the fat chicks, but now he has to be responsible and he has done it well. Up until Sunday he was joking around with the girls at the doctors office and any other girl for that matter and now he doesn't even say more than a couple of words at a time! We used to fight like cats and dogs boy I wish we could do that again! Well I will quit rambling and just thank you again for your support! Michelle