Just a bundle of emotions...

I feel sorta silly...it's been 10  yrs since I've had any major surgery (my daughter was born in 97, c-section)...I have had other surgeries prior to that, I was never nervous...and hadn't been nevous about this until about a week or so ago...I guess that's normal huh?

I'm also a little bummed because even though my hubby will be there with me the entire time, my mother is not coming for the surgery...she is going to come after i'm done with surgery...should i be upset about this? i am, and I feel kinda guilty for feeling this way...it's just that my mom has a job where she could take off with no problems on thursday, but she says she has a new person starting this week and doesn't want to leave her on thursday...so she's goingto come that evening...i feel like if it were my brother (either of them) she'd be there....so i'm bummed about that...my aunt (mom's sister) on the other hand said she'd come up if my mom didn't...i thought that was wonderful of her...i really hope she does, it would make me feel better to have at least one other family member there too... anyhow, i'm rambling and i'm trying not too...so my nerves are worked up, i'm anxious, i'm tired, i'm soo ready...I'll keep ya posted...but I am going to try to make it to the clothing exchange on saturday to meet all you fine people! i could truly use it because only my husband has been supportive of this surgery, everyone else means well, but really they have no clue... i look forward to joining you all on "the other side" very soon.... hugs, Jen

(((( HUGS )))) Just want to tell you to keep your head up! You're going to do awesome and be okay! What time is your surgery? If I get released on Thursday I'll try to come by and say Hi or something.  I am praying for you!!

praying for you too Misty! my surgery is at 11am thursday, what time is yours tomorrow? jen

 

10:00 Am :)

To both of you GOod luck and I'll keep you in my prayers tomorrow and Thursday... don't push the clothing exchange dearies... you're going to be EXHAUSTED!!! And you might not be out of the hospital yet... If you can make it by all means come, but don't wear yourself out there will be other get togethers...

Thank  you Jessyca :) I so appreciate your kind and encouraging words!!! you guys here at OH are the BEST! jen

Blessings to ya  Jen and Missy! Remember, I WILL be there with you  wiggle that RIGHT BIG TOE!

Thanks Janene...you're wonderful!!! I truly appreciate YOU! hugs, jen  

Jen, I know exactly how you feel. My husband and my kids have been there for all of my many, many surgeries. My Mom? My sisters? My brother? Not in this lifetime! And yes, my mom has been there for most of their surgeries. I saw how she behaved when my step-dad has his RNY though and you know what? I'm GLAD she wasn't at mine! My family is my husband and my kids. Period. Sometimes you just have to accept it that when it comes to emotional support, that is who matters. Maybe your mom sees it the way my husband does...what's she going to do? If something went wrong in surgery, there's not a damn thing she can do about it so she might as well do her job, and wait and come & let you know she cares afterwards. I tried to explain to him that even though a person knows that if anything happens that it is entirely up to the surgeon, some (most) people feel a peace of mind knowing that Mom is out there. Kinda like if Mom is there, she won't allow any harm to come to her baby girl/boy. I think it surprised him for me to say that since he knows my mother has a supportive bone number of zero..but I know my kids feel that way about me being there which is why if I can help it, they will not go into a surgery without knowing I am in the waiting room for them. Go in there knowing that your hubby is out there as well as any other friends and family. Also know that your OH family are all rooting for you as well! Don't feel guilty about your feelings. They are what they are. Just accept Mom as being Mom and give your hubby an extra hug. Sherri

Sherri...THANK YOU SO MUCH...It's nice to know there are other people who understand how I feel where my mom is concerned (and several others in my family) I agree with you though that my husband and my kids are my family...my husband has been wonderful through this and I know he'll be by my side no matter what! He  is quite upset that my mother has chosen her job over me, but at this point (34 yrs old) i'm kinda used to it! :( you're right though, it is what it is...and it isn't always what we want it to be...but one things for sure...a year from now it won't matter anyhow!!! :) thanks again!!! i so appreciate your post! Jen