Trouble in paradise!! advice needed!!!

Mendi, Great to meet you last night. All I can say is-DITTO~ to all the responses here. My Dad wrecked our car when he was out drinking yrs. ago, and we were totally liable for it- the towing, the repairs to the other vechiele and the total loss of our car- which we owed $$ on. We were also being generous and selling it to him ( of course we never saw the $$) and he acted like ti was our fault for helping him! My best advice would to be get your car back ASAP, and let her figure out what she is going to do. if you keep "bailing her out" you will only drag yourself in a deeper mess~I know- been there-done that!!! Best wishes and prayers coming your way, Ellen

It must differ from state to state. I know that when I borrowed a car from a friend and hit a deer with it, I called the police. She had insurance, but the policy number wasnt on the card, and i explained the situation to the police and they said they would contact her. onyl they didnt, decided i was driving without insurance, suspended MY license, and never notified me OR my friend. I found out the hard way two days after my mom's funeral when i got pulled over for having a head light out and ended up going to JAIL because i was unknowingly driving on a suspended license. I had to get her poicly number, show that HER car was insured at the time of the accident, and then get my license back. all told, about $1500 for someone not doing their job. I wouldnt bail her out either. let her fiance or mom bail her out. But then, I have zero tollerance for drunk drving. If you still want her to have the car, id go ahead and sign it over and be done with it.

I had a best friend for 46 years... she got so wild I had to let her go her own way and face the judgement.. I couldn't "bail" her out either.. Ditto to everyone's post.. you need to protect you and yours first and formost.. There is nothing wrong with helping another person but to financially support them making dumb decisions.. well that is a bit much.. Linda

1.)You can't feel guilty because your friend got pulled over for DUI in your car. 2.)You need to get your car out of impoound and tell your friend if she wants it back she need to pay for it, and lisc and ins it in her name (stand firm because I agree with the others, you will be held liable if she causes an accident) 3.) Why can't your friends 'fiance' take care of the bail $$$, it's not your responsibility. Help her find someone to take care of the kids if necc, but I wouldn't put myself in the position of financial stress, esp if you're not sure if you'll get it back. I agree with the others, if she's old enough to have kids, drink, be on her own, etc, she's old enough to solve her own problems! Don't let her 'guilt' you into putting your family at risk for her. Be Strong. Hope

I want to thank you all for your advice it was nice to have someone to vent to and get some advice from. I got my car out of impound today and I paid her bail for Johnson county yesterday but I didn't know she had warrants in two other counties so she is not going to be released until she is processed and bails out of those two counties and I am not going to pay for the other two counties because I can't afford to lose that much money so close to my surgery. 1 I will be off for 3 weeks and not making a full paycheck and 2 I have a 10% coinsurance up to $2000 so I want to have the money in hand so I have no monetary complications to stop my surgery. my hubby is kinda mad taht I paid the 600 in tota between bail and impound fees but like I said if I had stayed out with her and been the designated maybe she wouldn't have gotten herself into this current mess. I know I can't control what she does but I do feel a little guilty. she is supposed to be paying me back at the beginning of the month when her fiance get his social security check. I just wish I could have some time without any drama!!!!