I Thought I Knew...

Today I talked with a friend (??) about still waiting for approval from insurance co. She said we have to get this started and get some men in your life. I do not go off to much, but this I guess I was just ready. I told her the only "men" in my life are my 2 grandsons. I want to be alive to watch my grandchildren grow up. I am not or would not go though all these changes in my lifestyle just to get or keep a man. Can you believe that . My health is my only reason and to stay alive. Like, the last ER visit the doctor said diet or just remove the "e". I want to live. Thank you for allowing me to vent, Gail

I'm sorry she said that , if people only would listen to our TRUE reaons for getting this surgery , sure we all want to look great , but we would never look great if we wasnt ALIVE and HEALTHY .. big hugss ~ jenn

shoot men are just another head ache...........LMAO....but now those grandbabies are where its at...

I agree.... Grandkids ROCK!!! the only time my poor hubby smiles is when the grandbabies are around.. Linda

Gail, While a man is NEVER a good reason to have the surgery...gotta have it in your mind of 'this, I do for ME'....you may not feel so upset over your friend's statement once you have that weight melting off and can see that diva hiding inside yourself! It is a real ego boost to have good looking guys come up to you and say 'wow! You're a hottie!'! So....don't be too critical of her statement. I believe she IS being a true friend hon. While you are looking forward to playing with your grandkids...from one grandma to another...it's ALOT more fun playing with the big boys when you don't have the excess weight and co-morbidities slowing you down! And...grandma's should sometime think about having a future grandpa to become great-grandparents with. Sherri

I think Sherri is right on both counts. You should only have the surgery if it is for you (to improve your health and quality of life). But I think she is also right in thinking that your friend really had your best interests at heart. She had probably seen you when you were lonely or heard comments from you about wanting "something" in your life, even if you weren't sure what that "something" was. I think she just doesn't want you to be lonely. I'm not saying you have to have a man in your life to be happy, this may just be her interpretation of what will help you to be happier. Her comments are kind of like that gift you get for Christmas or your birthday that is the wrong size or color or some such. You have to take it in the spirit it was given and appreciate the thought if not the actual gift. True friends are hard to come by, don't let a poor choice of words destroy your relationship. Just explain to her that right now, men are low on your list of priorities. But stay open to possibilities. You never know what may be arouond the next corner. Good luck in getting approved, enjoy those grandbabies and may your life only get better from here! Cindy

I did it for me and to be around for my son. I would not do it for a man. Just not worth it. My husband did not want me to have the surgery at first. He was afraid of all the bad stuff that can happen during and after surgery, but now he is so proud of me and how well I have done with the surgery. Just do it for you and to be around to see your grandbabies grow up. Kylie

Dear Friends, I see everyone's point. I am having surgery my health. I so long to be healthy. I want to watch my grandbabies grow up. And if a man finds me, I would be fine with that. But, I am not about to go a a looking and a hunting Thank you everyone, you are all so supportive !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hugs & Blessings,Gail