Something I have been wondering about....

What does your significant other think about your weightloss? My husband always makes me feel beautiful and special. I wonder what he will think when I lose the weight. Will it change things? Will people make embarassing/rude comments to him?

You know my hubby has been nothing short of wonderful. He has supported me through this whole process. Rather than eat our favorite foods in front of me, I will fix 1 lean cuisine get my 2oz out of it and he will eat the rest for dinner. We used to always base what we did around going out to dinner i.e. go to Walmart then out to Chinese. Since we can't do that right now he takes me to the movies instead of eating. My weight has never bothered him, he even told me the morning of surgery if I wanted to back out, I could. He said he didn't mind me being fluffy...made me cry. He is going to attend support group meetings with me also. Melanie? Why would people make rude commits to him? Jealousy? Cause he has a hottie on his arm and they don't? He will be nothing but proud of you. Tammy

Good Question.... My partner has been great with it. I do have to admit that I was a little worried but so far, so good. She always told me that I was beautiful the way I was and I know that she truly loved me even when I was 365 pounds. Our relationship has actually gotten better since my surgery because I am so much happier. I felt so bad about myself that I didn't want to leave the house. Now you cant keep me home, I am ALWAYS on the go! When Jaimee is happy, the whole house is happy! Jaimee

If hubby isnt bragging about the grandkids he is bragging about me... sometimes I stear the conversation back to the grandkids.. he does get a little embarrassing... yoy would think I actually did something sooo fantastic.. when all I actually did was take the first step to imnproving my health for life... HE has lost 19 pounds and his coloresteroil (sp) has gone down to 128!!! He loves my new diet... we go out to Red Lobster and I eat 1 biscut and 5 pcs of shrimp... I order a full meal so he gets tons of choices!!!! He can have the soup and the salad!!! What better life could he have??? He has a wife that can actually wait on him now instead of sitting in a chair asking him to fetch!! WLS saved my life and my family Linda

My hubby and I each had been married 4 times. Each of Bill's ex'es were BBW's (Big Beautiful Women). I was a BBW when we met & were married. I had just assumed that he preferred big women. Lots of men do. When I had my surgery, I admit, I was thinking selfishly on what I wanted from it. His feelings about it didn't come into it. I did it for my health. Period. Since then however, I have had time to reflect on his behavior, feelings, & attitude about me losing weight. I honestly believe that the shape and size had nothing to do with his attraction to me...it was the personality that had to click. I also believe that he never thought he'd be able to have a hottie/babe fall in love with him...and is pleased a*****h that he has finally got a babe on his arm. When we use to walk down the street or into a restaurant, he would hold my hand. Now, he puts his hand around my waist or rests it on my hip with his arm around me(now that you can feel where my hip is!). It's these little ways that he lets me know that he loves me...fat or not. BTW...no one has ever made a single rude or embarrassing comment to him. I have all faith in him to handle it appropriately and with a sense of humor if someone did though. Sherri

Sherri, I, too, am married to a wonderful man who fell in love with me when I was larger. He was married to a THIN stripper before me... I just never understood the HUGE difference in his ex to me. But, now that I am a sultry size 10/12.... I feel better about myself. (Plus, his ex can't call me the fat cow anymore... GOD, I hate her.) Anyways... he has not changed ONE bit in the way he treats me. He always has NEVER been able to keep his hands off me... but, does seem to do some different tricks now that I'm not as heavy as I was before LOL Heather

LOL....I love the Fat Cow comment Reminds me of someone in my past too You go ladies!!!!!!!!!