Told some of the parents.......

Well, I told some of the parents about the upcoming surgery. I told my inlaws who are both obese themselves and they are very supportive and happy for me. MIL would be having the surgery herself if insurance covered it. I then told my dad and step-mom (who live in south carolina and will be taking care of our kiddo for a week while I have surgery) and they were both very supportive as well. They both said if it's something that I want to do, then to go for it. So this weekend I'll be with my mom and step-dad. They are the last to tell and I think they'll be the least supportive. I just don't think that they'll understand, but it's my decision and I'm asking for them to either be supportive or to not bring it up again. So wish me luck. On a brighter note, I did tell my boss that I was having surgery and would need to be off for the week after spring break and for some pre-op testing. I feel a little bad leading him to believe that the surgery is for feminine reasons.....which losing weight will help the PCOS and female probs that I have.......... less than a month. I'm soooooooo excited. I keep looking at before and after pictures on here...getting inspiration........wondering how things will be 6 months from now, 1 year, and more..........i just can't wait. Thanks for the support. I can't wait to meet you all at the next clothing exchange. it'll be after my surgery so I'm be on the losing side, too. Have a great weekend you all!!!!!

You have no legal obligation to tell your employer why you are having surgery. I wish I had known that sooner instead of later, maybe I'd still have a job. If they ask what it's for just tell them that you'd like to keep it private until you are comfortable sharing (if ever) when you're a post op.

HAVE YOU lost your job for sure???? are you going to fight it??? well then collect unemplyment!! and once the state finds out WHY you were fired... I am sure you would get it!! Linda

Sounds like you have a great support system going on... I am sure it will be the same all the way around!!! These decisions are hard enough to make without parents throwing a rock in the gears... You seem to have your head on straight about the upcoming surgery.. all your ducks in a row.. Bless your heart and enjoy the journey... it is not always smooth sailing but ALWAYS worth the price you pay!!! Linda

Thanks, you guys! Told my mom and step-dad this weekend....they were supportive as well........although mom seemed to make it more about her than about me by saying things like "well, this will give me incentive to lose weight now" and the like. Guess I shouldn't be suprised, but at least they were supportive. Did you really get fired b/c of having the surgery? I remember one of your posts saying that they weren't going to let you have your FMLA.....I would definitely contact an atty. That doesn't seem very legal to me......keep us posted.

Melissa, You have to do what you know in your heart is good for you. I am glad that you decided not to let your family's feelings sway your judgement on this decision. My mother lives 700 miles away and was very judgemental about my having this surgery. As I've always done in life I didn't let that change my mind. Her feelings are I was doing this all in vanity...gosh Mom, what about the borderline diabetes, heart problems, arthritis, etc...hmmm couldn't imagine why I'd want to loose a hundred pounds could you...oh no, it's ALL because I wanted to look good in the mirror. But, I have discovered through talking to other people, she surely is bragging about the weight I have lost. Oh well good thing we have the distance in miles between us, and when I hear her negative opinions I hold the phone out so it doesn't sink in. Good Luck & Enjoy yourself on the losing side! Julie R.

So I guess that I was worried for nothing. I told my mom and step-dad this weekend and they were supportive. Not quite sure what to say at first, but they were supportive. Mom even sent me an e-mail card today letting me know that she is here for me and very happy to stand by my decision. That was very nice to hear! Now if the next 23 days would HURRY up!!!!!!! It's driving me nuts!!!!!!