Still nervous

Ok so tell me again that she will be fine. I really love my wife and want her to be happy and healthy. This whole thing just has me on edge. I'm worried about her, about post-op complications, how this could effect our relationship, and the flap thing. (We have a gr8 sex life and I don't want it to go down hill) Sorry I'm a protector I do everything I can to keep her safe, well the kids too, it's an occupational hazard you could say. Can't anyone just tell me that everything will be ok....Katsgrl1 you can reply in person! Everyone else please just some positive feedback is what I need.

I think the best thing you can do WITH your wife is go to her appointments pre-op, share your concerns with her and the surgeon. Do as much research as you can about the surgery. Obviously you are a very caring and inquisitive husband, as you have taken the time to create an account on OH- I think that is very sweet! I don't think that anyone can tell you 100% without a shadow of a doubt that there won't be any complications- there are a chance of complications with any surgery...with that beign said there are GREAT complications with morbid obesity!! As far as how it will affect your relationship, that is also a personal case-by-case scenario that is truly up to you and your wife on how you handle it. My husband and I had a lot of discussions prior to surgery and we both agreed that my health far out weighed being worried about having extra skin..He was attracted to me with fat IN the skin, so the absents of fat shouldn't matter...I wish you the best of luck on this journey with your wife! and kudos to you for being there for her when she needs you!

Thanks for the info. I have gone to everything I can with her and plan to continue. BTW she is seeing Dr. Mattar as well! Thanks again.

Dr.Mattar is amazing! He is an awesome surgeon and will do everything he can to put your mind at ease. I have complete faith that he would not perform surgery on your wife if he thought that it would cause major complications. If it makes you feel any better I work at Clarian North in both the Intensive Care Unit and the Progressive Care Unit and it is rare that we see any of Mattar's patients in our units- if we do it is because of underlying cir****tances (other healing inhibitors).. you are a good husband for being supportive! keep it up!

That dose help and so dose the fact that you work at Clarian North and chose Dr. Mattar. She is my life. You can tell her I told you so, but she will tell you that she knows already. You have responded to her questions on here (I think about the food after surgery?) katsgrl1. She calls me kat so that makes her katsgrl, how adorable right.