Thank You to my OH FAMILY

It has been 2 weeks today since Lyn passed away.  I am not going to go into how I am feeling or doing cause words cannot express the empty feeling I have.  Matter of fact, most times I don't even know how I am doing.

I want to thank all of you that came to the funeral home Friday night and Saturday.  It meant so much to me that you came and I know you all had to drive long distances.  Thank you for the planters and memorials given. 

You have ALL been such a big source of support the last 7 months.  I couldn't have done it without you.  While in the hospital or at home you were all there to visit or keep the prayers coming our way.

I never gave up on Lyn, even at the end when he was gone I was still trying to tell Mom maybe he was just breathing real shallow.  I definately was in the wife mode then and not the nurse mode!

I know he is in a better place now and is healed now.  I am being selfish for wanting him back I guess.

Thanks again,  Love you all     Terry

I do not have the magic for you...but i will pray for your strength to help carry you through this time....just not the way it was suppose to be..HUGS

Terry

I still have you in my prayer and thoughts.  It is good seeing you posting, please keep us posted on you and if there is anything that I can do, please let me know.

Hugs

Peggy

Terry
Honey i wish i lived closer cause i wonna give you a hugg.

My cousins has been gone for 1.5 years and his wife tells me how hard it is and that she thinks about him all the time..But she says he is there with her and now he is healthy and happy and she wouldnt bring him back because of that..But she says there is times she gets selfish and ask why he had to go....

Terry you have been so strong now its time to let all your emotions out sweetie..

Much love and many huggs

Love you Terry.  You have set such an example of love and devotion.

(((HUGS)))

Terry, you are not being selfish, you are being the loving wonderful wife you always have been. You took such excellent care of him and gave him every opportunity. You let him declare himself rather than making decisions for him. I don't know that I could have had that strength. YOu are an amazing woman, wife, mother and I have learned so much by watching you during the past 7 months. I am so blessed to call you friend.

I'm ready and waiting whenever you are ready for a day out (shopping, lunch, laughing), just let me know when you're ready!

Love ya,

Melissa

Terry,

I don't know what I'll do if/when the day comes that I have to be without my Bill. I know that somehow I would make it...but I also know the emptiness that him not being with me would leave.We were separated once and I know how empty that left me...and I was mad at him then. I don't even want to imagine how much worse it would be to know that he isn't just across town or that I couldn't just pick up the phone and hear his voice. I guess I would have to hold on to the memories of our life together. I would imagine that I would find myself talking to his picture alot too. And...knowing me...I'd try to be as strong as I could for our kids and grandkids.

I could tell at the services that you and I are alot alike in that. I've been fortunate to not have to go through what you have...but I know how quickly life can throw you a curve ball. You have done an excellent job at catching that ball and trying to throw it back. It's time to rest now. Even the major league pitchers and catchers get to rest their arms in between innings. It's time to ice up yours. Take some 'me' time. You have spent the last 7 months being wife and nurse and you have done that wonderfully and with everything inside of you. It's time for you now hon. No. A shopping trip with Melissa isnt going to take the pain away...but it may keep it at bay for just a day...just a few hours...or even just a few minutes. Every minute it does though, it will help to heal that throwing arm of yours.

Many hugs and prayers....
Sherri

Terry, I haven't been on the board at all lately and just popped on tonight and saw your post. I am so sorry to have missed being there for you. I truly know how you feel...I was widowed 9 1/2 years ago and some days it still feels like yesterday. Time does get better at healing the pain but your heart will always hold the precious feelings you had for Lyn. I always say that my tears are a valadation of the love I had that was so wonderful. I married again 6 years ago and love my hubby very much. It is different and wonderful but it does not replace  what I felt for my first husband. so odd to love 2 people deeply and yet differently and not to detract from either one. Please take care of yourself and email me anytime. Those of us who have been thru this are in the club and know how you truly feel. You will re discover yourself and come out stronger and better for having had Lyn in your life. Take what you have gained from him and not what you have lost. In heavens timing...a day in heaven is as a thousand years on eart...so sweetie we are all just seconds apart in God's timing.
Hugs to you!
Marianne