I can't do this again.

Linda,   I wish I could say or do something to help. The support group is a very good idea, please check into that. The emotions and feelings you are having are the obvious ones that anyone in your situation would feel. What you must hold onto is your husband Mike and little Mikey and he will be ok because he has his father and mother and gameboy  : )

Support groups are made up of people in your position and I know that expressing your feelings and getting to know people like you, and hearing their stories would be a a lot of support. It reminds me of us here on the IN board on OH. A lot of us have never met, thankfully I got the chance recently to meet several great people but, we all support each other here and we have vowed to be as family with eachother. Those of us that were there for you last Wed. and those on here who are here for you want so badly to help. Hardly anyone can help you much because this is your grief and you must feel it and get it out. You must learn to heal what part of your heart that keeps you going and leads you on to a place in life where you can live with the peace that none of this was your fault. Pardon my language here, but these kinds of horrible accidents that happen have no explanation of WHY. That in itself is a big reason that it must be hard to heal. Also when things like this happen people tend to be angry with God. I have more times than I can say but, if you give your broken heart to Gods hands and pray for strengh, he will hear you and he will be there. We can't know why these things happen and then happen again and we feel like life has cursed us with too much pain. You need something to be able to lean on because you have been trying to be so strong  for your boys and for everyone. Being strong for yourself will come in time sweetheart, no matter how hard it is, it will come and in time you will find an outlet to be able to take your time and fill your mind.
My heart is with you everyday and my prayers to Gods ears.

Linda,

I am so sorry that you are having to face this terrible tragedy, yet again! I want you to know that I/we will continue to be here! It is ok to let it out! We won't mind! None of us can even fathom what all you have been dealt! You are amazingly strong to have held it together thus far! I know that each day seems to get harder! Hopefully in time, the memories will become easier and bring a huge smile to your face! Maggie truly is an angel!You have given an amazing gift to others, so that their children could survive! That is enormous, and may have been God's will! We all will never know nor understand, for only he does! Please don't give up!

I believe that the support group for grieving parents would be of great help for both of you! Your marriage has endured so much as well as each of your own personal lives! Please don't blame yourself- you said it- you done everything right! She was in a booster seat and a seatbelt! The ice and snow were not brought on by you! I agree it is so hard and sad and seems so unfair! Only God knows the answers to all of your uncertainties! I hope that you continue to lean on him and allow him to bring you as much comfort as possible through this most trying time! I am beside myself wanting to help you and support you and yet I am not sure how to go about it! Please let me know of anything that I may be able to do, I will try my hardest! You have been such an inspiration to me along my journey, as well as I am sure to many others!

Please continue to let it out to us your OH family! We will try to give you as much support as we can! It is important to let it out and not hold it in! Don't be afraid to ask for help, from anyone! You deserve it! You have endured more than you ever deserved!

I love ya, and am here!

HUGe HUGZ Dawn

Linda,

We are here for you hon. You are welcome to scream, cry, remember, etc anything in any amount that you feel the need to.

I also believe that a support group from grieving parents/families would benefit you, Mike, and Mikey. You may want to do some counsoling as a family as well. You each lost a vital member of your family and I'm sure each of you are handling your grief in your own way. A counsoler and/or support group just for your situation would be more beneficial that anything else since they have all been there.

In the meantime, do feel free to come on here. We all may not have been in the position you are in, but we have a fair idea on how we would feel if Maggie had been our child.

We love you...
Sherri

 Linda,

Get it out...scream at the top of your lungs!  Get mad! Ask WHY! These feelings are normal and need to be felt and shown to be able to start healing. Grieving is needed.

I do agree with the other folks...get in a support group! It does help to be with other folks who are grieving.

If ya feel like talking, screaming, getting mad...look for me on yahoo messenger.

DO NOT just go into hiding....keep posting...WE ALL love you here! We feel your pain.
We are here for you!

huggggggggggggggs
Janene

Linda, I am so very sorry that you and Mike are having to go through this again. We don't always know the purpose that God has for our lives. We don't have to like what happens and we are not bad people if we do. What we do have to do is accept His plans for us and for those of them we love. Know that Maggie now part of His perfect garden and is there with her sister, Lucy. I know just what you are feeling since I have lost 3 children. It does get better with time but it never goes away. It just gets better when we learn to adjust to the feelings that we have and always will have. Our pain doesn't go away we just learn to accept it and when we do that the pain lessens and we can go on. But.....we have to allow ourselves to go on. We can sit and grieve for our children or we can honor their lives, no matter how short or long they were, and go out and help other grieving parents, grandparents and siblings.

I have said in the past that Compassionate Friends have helped me immensely. It is a support group for no only grieving and bereaved parents but for grandparents and siblings alike. We all grieve for the life that was cut short. Just in different ways. No one is suppose to bury their children and unfortunately we have to. Mikey has to adjust to his life without his siblings also. It is going to be difficult for him as time goes on. Undoubtedly he will have feelings of why he was the one that lived and not his sister, that would be normal. Compassionate Friends is going to be able to help him with his feelings also. That is the great thing about this group.

Please know that I am here to listen to you and your feelings as they come out. If you have to pay for long distance calls just call me and I will gladly call you back, as I get my long distance free, on both my home phone and my cell. Feelings come out in many many ways, please remember that. You all are in my prayers and also in those that attend my church. You are on prayer concerns and will be for several weeks. Remember you are not alone and others want and need to help you, if you allow them. Your load is lessened when it is shared with others.

Linda,
You can and will make it through.  I can't begin to imagine the horror that you are dealing with.  I do know though that there are no words that can explain, or justify what happened.  Linda, I know right now, you may even feel like there is no God, but God is the only one that can heal this hurt.  You're daughter is beautiful and the pictures you shared on the web site are full of joyful and happy memories.  Allow yourself to mourn and be angry, but also allow the God of this universe, who holds your daughters in his arms suround you with His Love.  Cry, yell, scream, but just know that you will get through this.  Lean on your husband and your family and allow them to help you.  Emil and I are praying for you.  God, please surround this family with your arms.
Blessings.

Linda I am So Sorry I couldnt be there for the funeral I was able to get out to come to the visitation but couldnt get there for you for the funeral and I m very sorry for that. you didnt do anything wrong and in no way is it your fault ive been with you and Maggie before she was always in her car seat and seat belt. I know there isnt anything I can say to make you feel better but if you just need someone to listen to you, or a shoulder to lean on or go to the gym and punch the snot out of a gym bag im here
call me any time
kathy

Linda,

I am formerly from Indiana.
I too want to say how very saddened I am about the loss of Maggie.

Sophia

Linda,

   I'm sorry that I haven't sent my wishes and prayers your way until now.  I just didn't know what to say or how anything I could say would ease your pain.  Please know that I will pray that God will comfort you and fill you with His peace.  I cannot imagine what you and your family are going through.  I can only share that we never know why things happen the way they do.  Even when we want to know so very badly.  Try to have peace in knowing that one day, all will be revealed to you and you will know.  God needed another beautiful angel, and as it all feels so unfair, try to remember that her smile and laughter now fill heaven.

May God bless and keep you

Michelle

Linda I just want you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers today.  It was 15 years ago today that i gave birth to a little boy that was dead, we knew he was dead the day before, didn't make it any easier to give birth!  I donated his body to science, it was the most difficult thing i've ever done...i went against my husbands religious beliefs and went with what my mother instincts told me!  What you did was the right thing it just doesn't make it easier.  G*D be with  you at this time! ANDI