I'm 3 weeks out from my lap-band and loving it. I spent one night in the hospital, less than 24 hours, and one week off from work. That was plenty. I feel great, no pain now for one week, and my energy is already improving. So far I'm lucky in that I feel some restriction without a fill.
To try to answer your questions:
1. My family and friends are all very supportive. They've seen me struggle with my weight for years, and once I explained that I was only enlisting the help of this tool and the team that comes with it (surgeon, nutritionists, support groups and this board) they were understanding. I've tried weigh****chers, diet and exercise for years and failed. I'd be insane to keep trying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
2. Prior surgeries should not be a problem, unless for some reason you had extensive scar tissue inside, and there's no way to know that until the time of surgery. Don't worry about it.
3. Sounds like a good deal with your insurance company. Make sure you know your out-of-pocket maximum for the year ... the $500 may be for the hospital stay, but there's also the surgeons fee, the pre-op testing, and the fills in the office later. By the way, most insurance companies do NOT cover the fills, so ask about this, ask whatever surgeon you eventually choose what they charge for a fill, and put aside extra money into a health savings account if possible. My surgeon's criteria was BMI > 40, pass the psych eval, and willing to commit to the program. Nothing about 5 years.
4. I'm guessing the training program is just to make sure the surgeon is experienced in lap-band. As you choose a surgeon, that's something you can specifically ask of their office.
5. My first pre-op seminar and meeting with surgeon was 8/16, I had the psych eval the next week, and was approved by insurance exactly 4 weeks later. I could have chosen an earlier surgery date by a few weeks, but I needed time to get work schedule rearranged, so I had surgery on 11/30.
I think your next step is to attend a bariatric surgery seminar. All the major hospitals offer them for free, a group meeting where you can learn about the two main surgical choices, and then if you choose you can have a one-on-one consult with the surgeon (this part is not free). You can go through as many seminars as you want, to meet with different surgeons. Each seminar is hosted by one surgeon at a time, the centers can tell you who's doing them when. Depending on where in town you live, I'd suggest either St. Vincent Carmel, Clarian North or St. Francis. You can go to their web sites or call the hospital operators to ask for more info on the seminars.
Of course, I highly recommend my surgeon, he does a lot of lap-bands and he's very personable. He's busy, and I hear right now his surgery schedule is out to April. But he's worth the wait.
Feel free to send me a message if any questions.