My dad is so negative

Jenny K.
on 10/2/07 1:48 am - IN

I was talking to my mom today about different things. My cousin had this surgery done back in April and she was telling me some problems she was having. It is her own fault, she is not taking her vitamins and getting her fluids in, etc., she is starting to lose some hair. She was getting dehydrated, so she had her friend start an IV on her and got some fluids in. Anyway, I was telling my mom that I dont think she is as committed as she was. Then she said your dad is hoping you dont give up and gain your weight back. I was just dumb founded. I didnt say anything, but it really hurt my feelings that my dad dont have positive feelings towards me accomplishing this. I thought to myself, this is motivation enough. I WILL prove my dad wrong. He said the same thing when I got married (because I got married so young at 18) he said I dont give you guys a year. Well we just celebrated our 16th anniversary. So to he!! with him, I will do this. I just had to vent, because deep down my feelings are hurt that my own dad does not think I can do this. Jenny

Maddie471
on 10/2/07 2:12 am - IN

RNY on 12/18/07

That is rough--it sucks when the people you want most to be supportive are not. Just know that it doesn't matter if your dad thinks you can do this as long as you KNOW you can! Keep your chin up!

Maddie471

Brenda R.
on 10/2/07 2:12 am - Portage, IN

RNY on 10/08/07

Hi. I am having my surgery on Monday and so I know what you mean because at times my husband use to say some things like that. Now he sees my determination and I don't think that there is doubt now. I think that sometimes parents are more critical than others. I could imagine my parents saying something like that too. Sometimes I wonder if they say them to keep us motivated. I wouldn't worry about it. I think that when you have your surgery your dad will become one of your best cheerleaders. I hope that everything goes well and best of luck on the big day!

It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.

monkeys_angel74
on 10/2/07 2:25 am - Jonesville, IN

Everyone in my family DH included are supportive. They are just worried that I will have some problems. But on the other hand they know I have been overweight my whole life and I have no other to choice to be healthy. Maybe you should talk to your dad yourself. Could be hes just worried about you or doesn't really understand the surgery itself. Good luck you will be fine with or without his support.

Melissa

Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.

LaChelle R.
on 10/2/07 2:56 am - Erie, PA

RNY on 12/27/07

I know you will be strong and prove them wrong! You are very determined, and now that has been said, you are more than ever going to try to make them understand. My MIL would be so negative about me having the surgery, my DH and I have chosen NOT to tell her until AFTER it is done. It is none of her business, and I certainly don't need all the negativity and foul words that will come out of her mouth. Luckily we live 8 HOURS away, so I don't have to see her on a daily basis. And, if she calls, I will let the machine pick up if necessary! (Did I ever say how much I love the new technology! LOL) I am sure that after she finds out, I won't hear the end of it until she really sees the results and how I am doing with it. She is honestly psycho, and I don't need the added stress of her butting into my business! I hope your father comes around and understands that this is for your own health, and your future! By the way, congrats on 16 years! LOL

At Goal! 165 pounds gone forever! Thank you Lord!

You only have one life to live, but if lived right, it's the only one you need!

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