Im DEPRESSED!!!!

Ok, I am soooo depressed... My kids dad is being a jerk and making me feel like crap... I get tired of feeling like I am a piece of crap... It is not all him, but mostly... I should have NEVER started talking to him again. I just feel like I am doing EVERYTHING wrong.. I hate feeling like this... I just wanna cry but I feel like I cant. Another thing that is making me ticked is I need a break... I understand these are my children... Ok, tey are my responsibility. The last time my kids dad and I went out was April 7th for my birthday and I only had a babysitter for 3 hours... We couldnt even go to the movie! Besides that it was New Years and besides that it was like 2 years ago... I need a break... His family won****ch the kids and my mom is sick.. And my sister who is perfectly healthy wont ever watch my kids even though I watched her son for the first 3 years of his life everyday for FREE!!! (Im sorry I got a Goodwill kitchen table out of it... She thinks she has it soooo hard... but her kids dad has the kids 4 nights a week and any day she wants him to have them... The point is I need a break or I am going to BREAK!!! Ok, I am crying now cuz I am so ticked and stressed... Am I throwing the babysitting thing all overboard or what? Sorry I just really need to vent.I am now crying too! I know I sound crazy but I really had to get this off my chest!!! Thanks for listening! ~ANNOYING NEWBY

Megan, Hon, from our notes back and forth, you hold your head high girl! You are working to make a good life for you and your kids so don't you let that man or anyone else make you feel like crap. You deserve better! As far as a break from the kids...maybe you and some other young moms on here can do a kids exchange day. Maybe once a month, one mom can be responsable for your kids and the next month, you can watch hers for a day. I do agree, all moms need a break now & then. And usually 'family' is the last ones to offer to give you that break. Let the folks here know what area you live in (if in Indy, what side of town) and what days you'd have available to child swap. Hmm...kids always got on my nerves the most when I was pms'ing....just a suggestion.. Sherri

thanks for the comment... One thing is I also dont trust too many people to watch my children... Not until I really get to know someone... You never know how people are even if they have a clean record!!! I would like to find another mom who lives either east or south-maybe west(I dont know west at all)- If not to trade off but to get to know eachother and maybe let the kiddies run around together... I think what makes me so frustrated is I let my mother in law stay here for a few weeks and she does nothing for me... I fed her, did her laundry and she couldnt even pick up her dishes... I am just blowing up again... My anxiety is going nuts right now... which is making my chest hurt REALLY BAD! But thanks for all the advice!!!

hey~~~~im not 4 sure where u r located but if ur any where near me id help u out im in blufton---which is 20 miles south of ft wayne am i close? i know its rough and yes every mom needs a break really sux when family dont help or cant ---do u have any close friends that may help you? well if im close to u id be glad to help u out----

Megan,  You arent alone, we all know how you feel so vent away girl, I had two little boys when i was but a child myself so i can relate, my ex mother in law would only take the kids when she thought i had plans with them,,  after a few years she didnt come around at all.  Their dad wasnt around, he moved away. my mom worked all the time but would watch them when she could.  Its tough and you do need a break, even if you had some one that would take them for 4 hours once a week so you could go out and do girl stuff with a friend or just walk walmart...   Ill be the first to admit its much easier to say than to do.  one thing that always helped me was to have friends over, even if the kids were in the house just having other adults to enteract with made me feel so much better.  have them bring their kids and your kids will get a treat of friendship too.  i have three grandkids right now and am feeling the same way sorta. i cant go any where or do anything without them, my mom is sick and their dad works late and their mom can only see them once a week supervised and one scheduled unsupervised visit a week on saturday morning.  I cant date or go do the things i used to do. its been almost 9 months that i have had them. IT SUCKS!!!!!   I love them but they arent my kids and i am po'd that i am forced to be put in this position. i always have taken them for the weekend every other weekend their whole life.  that was more than most grandparents do.  Hey lets find a sitter for all of them and we will go out on the town,,,,, lol       ok it sounded good didnt it............ Keep your chin up girl, when you start losing weight the kids wont be able to keep up with you.  BIG OLE HUG. Carla

Megan, everyone needs a break now and again. In Terre Haute, we have a drop off babysitting place called Playtime. You might see if you have anything like that around you. We buy a package of hours, and it's cheaper that way, and then we can use them as needed. Just an idea. 

Megan, I'm new around here but I agree that everyone needs a break. I've left my kids at home with hubby just to go to the store for a break! It doesn't make you a bad mom and the kids' dad is a whole different issue. No one should make you feel like crap for any reason. I don't know where you live but if it's anywhere near me here in Elkhart send me a message. I'd love to watch your kids for awhile or better yet we'll get hubby to watch them while we go someplace fun! Hang in there!  (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))