looking 4 advice personal family matter---

Missy, I agree with everything that everyone else said. I went through one ordeal after another with my son from the time he was 4 (when he chased a pre-school teacher with a 2x4...and she ran!). I did finally have to have him put in a psyche-type place also...and learned he had ADDS. Later, when he was ~14, he started more serious stuff...getting up in the middle of the night, sneaking out of the house, and stealing out of people's unlocked cars (we lived in a small town). When we figured out what was happening, we called the police and turned him in. Yes, he spent time in Juvie...but I figured then..and I hold to it, if he learned his lesson by being in Juvie, maybe, just maybe I can keep from seeing him in prison when he got older. That is enough to removed all guilt and all doubt. There are things much worse than Juvie for a few months or a psyche ward with couseling. There's prison (if she'd beat up on you now, how much damage do you think she would do to someone else later if she continues on this path?) and there's death (there is ALWAYS someone bigger & meaner!). We do very much understand this difficult situation you're in. It does improve...eventually. Sherri

Hey girlie... You and your daughter doing better? I wanna say I have a 12 year old brother in law and he is a bad bad kid. I have learned what does/doesnt work for him. I hope my children dont go through this. I was also a bad kid and I know what helped me... Dont hesitate to call me... I would of emailed you in detail last night but I started school back Tuesday and it is very tiring. I have a question for you but I dont want to post hers/yours life for everyone to see... Well, you have my email and phone number. I wish you luck and sorry to say but it is just begining.... Megan

OMG! This is too weird. I am having the same problems with my 13 yr old daughter.  I have been contemplating on taking her to the St John Center in Anderson.  I just cant seem to bring myself to do it, but it is effecting my other daughter to the point she is telling me if you dont call the police, I will. My husband and I have been fighting.  It is just a mess. She lies, calls me names, cusses me out, she even went as far a****ting me a few months ago and I had my arm up in front of my face to guard her hits and she just kept hitting my arm and gave herself a bruise, well she told her counselor that her dad had her on the ground kicking her....well guess he paid us a visit.....child protection.  My daughter finally told them the truth and the child protection guy told my daughter that lying can get her into some serious trouble and the next time she hits anyone that the police will be called and she will be taken. My daughter has had Tourette Syndrome since she was 2 along with obsessive compulsive disorder.  I cant even wash her clothes, it sends her into a rage because they smell good...I mean seriously.  They took her off all her meds thinking that was causing the bad behavior, but the behavior still continues. The place you took your daughter do they keep them a certain amount of time or how does it work?

hey~ this was very hard 4 me 2 do my emotions were all stirred up and still are i felt horrible about taking her there but deep down i had no choice because hitting me i wont tolerate ive seen to many maury shows and if i didnt get her help it would only get worse atleast now she knows it wont and cant be tolerated---no what i mean ? but i still feel like a horrible mother 4 doing this even though deep down i no she needed this---i took her to parkview behavioral health in ft wayne they have a adolecent unit---and shes been there since tues-her dr said they may let her go home sun or mon-they give them a 10 hr pass before discharge and if the pass goes well they r discharged if not then u can bring them back thats how it works there---well i donno its tuff isnt it ----but like people have said we have to set rules and stick to them---i know its gonna be hard because we never lived by rules but they need some type of strick disipline u no what i mean? they have family counciling there that is going to help me do the rules and the consequences for each child not just her---i no my friend said missy u should call the police oh no i could never ever do that to her i just said when my hubby gets home ill take her to the hosp--i was such a wreck for hours im feeling a lil better now but dealing with this and that seems unbearable----

Missy, I have to agree with everyone, & have had  to  deal with many of the issues you are facing, with my daughter & now 14 yr. old grandson- and getting help IS the best ,most loving thing, you can do -for her, you & your family!!! I am praying they find out what is going on & that you will have peace of mind and the strength to take care of yourself & do what needs to be done.  I am here for you- pm. me if you need to- vent,chat, cry, whatever- I /we are here for you!! (((healing hugs of hope)))) Ellen

thx-u people are great---i feel comtorble here with you all and i so much apreciate your help--its always good to know people do care and are there to help  when needed--im going for a visit later and talk 2 the dr. so ill keep u updated thx so much