Does it ever get any easier?

Ok, so before my surgery, no one ever told me I looked good. Now that I have had my surgery, and have lost 85+ pounds, people tell me everyday how good I look, and how proud they are of me. My question is this... Does it ever get any easier accepting compliments? I mean, they make me feel wonderful, and further cement in my mind that I made the right choice, but I feel myself blushing everytime they say those things to me. I am not complaining at all, and enjoy them, but I never know how to react to the positive feedback. I do thank them kindly, and move on about my day. Thanks for input in advance. S.

Congrats on your accomplishments!! I never quite new how to react to the complimets either! I just kind of accepted them and went on!Especia;;y when, sometimes, we don't see the changes as others do, like I still see myself as before- the ol' head hasn't caught up with the weightloss game- Sooner or later though they tend to disappear or are not as frequent, and then sometimes you may yearn to hear one! Be happy to receive the ones that you are receiving, and know that you deserve them and have earned them! I know that I really haven't answered your question, but I do understand where you are coming from! Most of us have been degraded for so long fr being obese, that it is difficult and sometimes uneasy receiving compliments, especially when you may not have received them before! They are nice, but sometimes still uneasy! Keep up the great journey! Hugz Dawn

Congrats on your achievements thus far! I must say that after 18 months I still fell emabarrased when people go on & on about how good I look. Don't get me wrong, I love the compliments, but when they say it like 5 times in an evening, it deffinately makes me blush and I don't quite know how to respond. It's even 'worse' now because Team Bariatrics that did my surgery asked me if I wanted to do some before/after advertising and I said , so now my pics in the paper and I've got friends calling, and old workplace asking me for my 'autograph' when I go shopping. I think I was red-faced all day yesterday. But anyway, you look great no really you do! We all do!!! Have a great weekend! Hope

Scott... Just gracefully say 'thank you' and internally think 'cha-ching!'. That's about all you can do. Just remember...you deserve those compliments! People who think WLS is 'easy' doesn't have a clue. And those who sailed through without a single complication or a single head hunger are a very fortunate few. So accept it as it is...a very real and personel accomplishment. Would you get embarassed if your boss congratulated you on finishing a project well? Nope, you'd be happy to accept the kudo's. And so you should be for your weight loss as well! Sherri

Scott: I am one year post op and I still have a difficult time accepting compliments. I am thankful for them but at the same time don't quite know how to handle them. Then again, I can see the changes in my looks but when I look in the mirror I still tend to see the Old Me. I guess it's part of the head game of too many years of not being accepted for our weight and the low feelings about ourselves. I guess what I'm trying to say is.......I'm there with ya. I know how you feel. It's something we need to enjoy and learn to accept without feeling like the punch line is yet to come. Hugs Claudette

high 5 guy!!!! you have done great and i think it does get easier in due time, but what is the greatest is when someone does not know who you are...

Wow Scott, you are really doing great. 85lbs loss already puts you at the tope of the loosers pole. Sounds like you are really doing a good job with your weight loss tool. Dan

I don't think it does. I always just say Thank you but it is very akward for me even 7 months out. Hopefully it gets easier but I think it will always be kind of akward for me. Congrats on the weight loss! Sam

Hi Scott- I have been thinking about this for a day now and decided to put my thoughts out on this. I have a really big issue with this one. I know it seems nuts, but I have a real hard time feeling like I have done a good job. So all the nice things that people say are really hard to take. I hate to feel so embarrassed, and at the same time I like to hear what they are saying. I know they are sincere and mean what they are telling me, but it still feels a little uncomfortable. I have big head issues and my mind has not caught up yet! I was out buying new slacks yesterday and had to go and get a size 4, this was so weird. Then the lady was checking me out and said oh I wish I could get into a size 4, and all I could think was are you nuts you must be way smaller than me and it took me a minute to really get it. I am smaller than her?! How did that happen? So I don't think it will happen over night, but I see light at the end of a long tunnel and hope that some day I will feel confident, beautiful and ready for any and all compliments that come my way. In the mean time, I have told myself to smile and try to pretend like I deserve the compliments. I hope this is a little reassuring, and helps you feel like we are all working on this skill! One more thought, I spent so much time trying to never be looked at or noticed in a room full of people that now I often wonder how many people actually see me, or better yet don't look away when they do see me? Does anyone else wonder that? Blessings, Carmen BTW congrats on the 85+ pounds that is so great! You rock!!!

A size 4??? I would compliment you, but you are such a HOOKER!!! That is great!! Your humility is so sweet. I just wish you could see what everybody else is seeing! You look like Meredith Gray, and we all know that she is H-O-T right now!