The surgeon changed my date!!

Oh honey, haven't you noticed that we all consider anything said on here as fair game to comment on? LOL! We all just gotta keep in mind the old axiom...opinions are like ____...everyone has one! There is no way we could see a sister (or brother!) being treated like crap and us keep OUR mouths shut!

Ya I guess we are all kind of loud mouth girls!!! LOL You can't have that title to yourself!

Jess I can't help but agree with what has been said by others. Maybe you need this time to take stock in your life as to what is most important. ( that would be you) I've been blessed with a wonderful husband and it is easy for me to say I wouldn't stick around with a husband that treated me like yours does. But I'm not in your shoes, only you can decide that. There are two kinds of abuse, Physical and verbal (mental). I think you are being abused. The one thing I can gaurentee is that you will love Dr. Evanson. His dimples make you melt when he smiles.(see pic of me with him at christmas party in my photos) He genuinely cares about his patients and is very easy to talk to. Keep up your spirits you've waited this long, You'll make it.

OMG! I would be SO disappointed, especially after getting this close! I AM SOOOOOOOOOO SORRY! Belle

Jessyca, Ok, here I am chiming in with the rest of your wonderfully wise WLS friends- Honey, you don't have to take that kind of treatment from him, or anyone! For one- he did say better or worse, in sickness and in health, right?? Well, I hate to say it, but sounds to me like he didn't mean what he said- he put some "conditions " on it like-" if your thin?? If you are sexy? If you are my image of" perfect"? If.....fill in the blank???etc." GRRR! I would throw him out on his A$$!! If he can't love you as you are, what makes him think it will be "ok" if you're thin??! ! NOT- He won't be worth your effort if that is all you are good for! Sorry, didn't mean to get angry- but @#$% like this gets to me! As far as your delay goes- I'd call and ASK IF THEY WOULD REFER YOU TO ANOTHER SURGEON (** DON'T DO IT YOURSELF) who can get to you sooner. You don't want to have to start all over again-if you don't need to. I know when there was a delay with mine I tired to go to Gupta, and was told I'd have to go thru all of the testing etc. again and appeal to my Ins. for her to do it!! Just my experience. Hang in there girl, and we are here for you! (((hugs)))

Thank you to all of you for posting. At least I know if it comes to divorce or seperation I will have strong females backing me up and being a support group. I have talked to family about this and most importantly my father. My dad is telling me to cool my jets and see what happens after I have surgery. He says if it doesn't get better then to end it because I deserve better and he will be there to carry me when I can't walk. I love my daddy! I know that this treatment is bullsh*t and I do deserve better, unfortunately my self esteem is so low right now that I can't demand it. So I'm going to keep praying and I'm going to be patient. I may be prolonging the inevitable but I want to walk away if I have to knowing that I did everything I could. Thank you all so much for your support. I'm still upset about not getting to have surgery in February but maybe it's a blessing in disguise. It will allow me more time to work out get some more muscle tissue and to start changing my eatting habits somewhat now... Thanks so much again I'm so happy to have you wonderful wonder women!!! Here's to us!!! Love ya all Jessyca

I am sooo sorry to hear that they have changed your date. You are a stong and beautiful woman and I have no doubt that this time will fly by!