Feeling Guilty & Depressed

Starting to feel a little depressed about my own WLS journey. I know that I only slowed down the weight loss because of the baby and had to quit excersing until I can have that bone scan on my foot AFTER the baby is born... but, I just feel really down. I was well on my way to being under 200 by my one year anniversary. I won't even of had the baby by then. I just can't help but look at myself and see fat everywhere. Even tho I've only gained 9 pounds with the baby, there's just so much fat it's depressing. I just feel like "well, tried WLS and failed... NOW what am I going to do?" I know I can cut my portions back down after the baby, and that doesnt bother me, cause I have to eat when Im not hungry to make sure I get enough calories in everyday, but... it just seems like a losing battle. Not that I'd trade the baby for it. I'd rather be fat the rest of my life than to have gone my whole life wihtout having a baby. So then I feel guilty about being depressed about it. My head is all sorts of messed up.

Darrah, don't feel this way. You are creating human life in your body. It's a big job. Your tool will still be there after the baby is born, and you can still use it. Take it easy on yourself. You're doing great. Linda Vicory

oh girl.............you would not be having this baby had it not been for this surgery...right?????? so you did great there...once the little thing is here you will be so busy with the baby you will get back on track...i bet you are seeing all these weight loss commericals and they are getting to you as well....you will have this lil bundle then worry about getting back on track...you will do great....

Darrah I gained 67 and 74 pounds with my boys... You gained 9 so far. Honey that probably isnt fat it is probably skin.. remember we had a lot of that. you can sit in your chair and lift 1 pound weights exercise your arms.. and you can sit on the floor and buttwalk yourself from one end to the other and walk off your butt without using your feet.. there are things you can do.. You can push yourself away from sweets... from anything you shouldnt be eatting... the baby needs good foood not pasta and breads.. etc.. DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER TH IS... YOU will be one of the best mommys because you already love her so much that your life will be focused on her you wont think about over eatting....after she is born...

Hi Darrah, Take a deep breath...it's going to be OK. I was heavy when I had each of my kids. I only gained about 9 lbs with each of them. By my 6 wk check up I had lost about 37 lbs both times. (Unfortunately, I hadn't had my wls yet and always gained it back, plus more, within a year. That won't happen to you.) You carry a tremendous amount of water weight, as well as baby weight and extra blood to support the baby, not to mention the weight the body insists on to support breast feeding. Once you have the baby, the weight will really drop off. And in case you haven't decided yet, breast feeding will really help your uterus shrink back to normal size much quicker and more efficiently than it will otherwise. It also helps you burn a ton of extra calories everyday!! Just to maintain your weight, it is recommended that you eat an extra 800 calories per day while nursing. Since you don't want to maintain your current weight, that's 800 calories you will burn without really trying! Hang in there sweetie. What you are experiencing right now is known to mothers everywhere as "pregnancy hormones" running amok. You'll be depressed and then overjoyed, you'll snap at your husband for no better reason than he is breathing! And then cry because you did. You have the added pressure of feeling like you should be losing weight because of the surgery, even though you understand, logically, that losing weight right now is not good for you or the baby. Your heart and your mind are playing tug of war with your emotions. Feel free to find something around the house that you really hate (that gift that just shouldn't have been given?) and rip it to shreds. You can blame it all on a hormone induced fit and get rid of that awful "whatever it was" at the same time. You'll feel so much better. Then lean back in your recliner or on your bed and feel the baby take advantage of the extra space (they love to start moving around about the time you stretch out to relax!). Watch your belly shift back and forth (it's really comical) and plan your first trip to the zoo with the little one. Everything is new and exciting when you show it to your baby for the first time! Cindy