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So my dad is now alert, and as onery as he has ever been. He was discharged from the hospital yesterday for what will be the last time. He signed all his papers yesterday that he doesn't want recessitated, and he doesn't want anymore life support, to just let him go. And if that's what he wants, then so be it. However, they released him to a nursing home. The night before we had just decided he wanted to go home. so my brother and I didn't go look at any. Well, the one they took him to, I knew before we even got to his room that he wouldn't stay. And I Finally came to the conconlusion: He's not a child. He heard the prognosis right along with us- 1-3 days at home, or 6 months to a year in a home. If he'd rather live 1-3 days surronded by his family and friends instead of miserable and angry in a home for maybe 6 months, then by God, just let him come home. I did tell him that he could come and live with Chris & I if he wanted. Rita (his live in girlfriend) is due to have some pretty serious surgery herself here next month, and she won't be able to care for him, so if nothing else he needs a place to stay while all of that is going on. That of course means I would have to quit my job, and finacially, I'm pretty scared as to what that means for us. I wish he'd of picked the home so he could have gotten the care he needs, but like I said, I dont want to foc\rce the man to be somewhere he doesnt want to be in his last days. I dont think I could live wth that.

Darrah, I am thinking of you during this difficult time, sending you HUGZ and hoping that your dad is able to enjoy the time that he has with you! It is hard when we see a loved one going through these changes and have to be strong and let them make the choices that we don't always agree with or feel selfish because we want them to be with us forever, but God has a different plan. If you need to talk, cry, vent, please feel free to give me a call, or email me. I am here for ya if you need me! Hugz Dawn Hope to see ya on the 2nd!

Darrah, I know it will be hard watching your father slip away so rapidly but honey, your family has made the right decision. I think most of us, if in your father's position, would choose 3 days with our family rather than 6 months alone in a nursing home. It's a testament to how much he loves you sweetie. As you said, he's an adult and heard & understood every word the doctor said. Trust that God will not put anything in front of you that you can't get through. I know you don't have many family members but remember that you do have many, many friends who care about you. We are all just a phone call or email away. Sherri

Darrah I just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you and your family!! If you ever need anything, let me know. Sam

Darrah you legally have 12 weeks family medical leave if your dad chooses your house.. I know you were probably going to use it all on the baby.. but it would save your job... Look into it!! linda

Darrah- I have been out of town for several days visiting family, so I have not been on the computer, but I have still been praying for you and your dad. I am so sorry you are going through this difficult time, but I am so glad you will have the chance to comfort your dad in his last days with you. Take care of yourself and your little one to come. Karen