not sure what to do

I am a week out of surgery and have had no problem, but this dramatic life style change is not going so well for me. I'm not wanting any of it and just want to reverse the surgery and work on my weight loss myself. I'm not severly obese and feel this is something I can do. This over whelming feeling will NOT go away and I feel only a reversal will help me. I don't feel like myself anymore and want it to go away.

I think this is pretty much normal Deedee, I am still preop so I dont have any personal experience to speak of. But from what I know from others, it is very typical to feel this way. You are less than one week out, give yourself some time and hopefully within the next month the change will be easier for you. I wish you the best of luck! Dont give up!!!

I really appreciate your support, but honestly I can't get the thought out of my head to go back to how I was before, I didn't like my weight issue no, but now I just feel like something is missing in my life. I'm not happy with this major change at all. I strongly suggest for everyone pre-op to carefully consider this major change they will go through and make sure you can handle this mentally, there is ALOT that goes along with this surgery. I'm not out to discourage anyone because this is something happening within myself. Thank you again for replying.

I understand what you are saying completely and I truely expect to mourn the loss of my best friend FOOD. But if I do not do this I honestly feel like I will die sooner than I should. I am not haing the RNY, I decided to go with the DS so I cant really comment on what changes you are going through. I can say though that if you need anything at all, someone to talk to , someone to help you through the tough times, I would be more than happy to be that person!! I expect some very dark days ahead myself so just know I am here if you need a friend....

I think I really just rushed into it without thinking of the life long deal I would have to go through. I'm 5' 1" and weighted 205, people hear that and think I shouldn't have done it because I am not that big, now I'm starting to understand what they meant. I'm just now realizing that this is really not for a person like me. Now I'm going to go through the steps of seeing how to get this undone so I can become a person I know I will be proud of instead of talking to myself saying "what have you done to yourself"

Hi Deedee, Take a deep breath and think calming thoughts. I strongly urge you to call the bariatrics office you had your surgery through. It sounds to me like you need to talk to the people who "know". I'm sure you are not the first patient to feel like this. However, I believe these feelings are something you can work through with the right help. You obviously did not feel that you could deal with your weight successfully without the surgery or you wouldn't have jumped through all the hoops with the insurance, the pre-op testing, etc. Don't give up on this opportunity. Ask for help. Talk to the nurse and the dietician and the psyche doc and your surgeon. Talk to everyone until you find the person that can give you the help you need. Don't go back. The first few weeks can be difficult, but the end result is so worth it. You will regain your health, if you've lost it. You will save your health if you hadn't. Your picture looks like you have a child. You will be better able to enjoy playing with him/her. As the saying goes: Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Fight for your life now. Fight the panic. It will be well worth it. Cindy

DeeDee, I agree with Cindy. You need to call your Dr's office and talk with someone there and let them know what your feelings are. The first 6 weeks are the roughest there is. It does truely get better from there. You will gain so much from having the surgery and you will begin feeling so much better. Remember you did had this surgery for a reason not for a whim you did it for YOU and your loved ones. I hope this might help you. Also this is a tool to help you loose the weight. Bonnie

Deedee, I had the "what have I done?" feelings like you about one week after surgery. It's like I came home and was sick, and tired and sore, and it all just hit me. I weighed 250 but now almost a year out, if I could have had it at 205 I would have. Call your doctor and just talk to them. This is the hardest time, right now, at least it was for me. I know exactly how you feel. Maybe try to get out and do something, get your mind off it. Make sure your drinking your fluids, and if your not on an anti-depressent maybe you should ask your doc about that. It will get better. Take care, Sarah

deedee: The feelings you are experiencing are normal. I haven't talked to one person yet that didn't have the regret (for lack of a better term) immediately after surgery. You are sore, you can't get around that great, you can't eat all the comfort foods that you relied upon for so many years. It truely is a life style change. It will get better. On another note, however, many find help with antidepressants after surgery. That too, is not unheard of. In a way, what you have suffered is a loss. The loss of a friend. By friend I mean, the comfort of food, the help of stress by eating and the connection to "normal" that it brings. I would highly suggest that you follow up with your doctor to see if they can give you some type of antidepressant and HANG IN THERE! I assure you that it WILL get better. Once you start seeing the weight come off and get the chance to eat more normal foods you should start feeling better. Right now, as I could relate, you feel like your life has turned up-side-down. Best Wishes and big hugs Claudette

Hang in there this is normal....once you start to see the loss you will be just fine....