Saturday...

Good morning everyone! I am SO sleepy!! We were finally able to pick up the RV from getting the tune-up, ect done on it yesterday evening ($950!!). This morning, we're getting it to Car X to have the exhast system checked-out/repaired/replaced at 7 this morning (depends on what they end up having to do but estimated at ~$1000). After that, we're bringing it to a generator shop to have that tuned up (~$300). When they get done with it (probably Monday or Tuesday), then we just have to have the water tanks winterized ($100) and we're all set! As far as stuff that we need others to do anyway. We need to go shopping for some stuff for it too ($$$????) so maybe we'll do that after dropping it off at the generator shop (which is a few blocks from home so we'll be walking home after leaving it there). Fortunately, all that stuff doesn't have to be done very often on it since it's running into some big $$. We just wanted to be sure of what we were starting off with though and that it was in good shape. Got a female question for longer post-ops out there... When I was a newly post-op, sex drive shot up...way up. Now? It's not even as good as 'take it or leave it'. I don't know if it's a post-op thing (I'm 2 yrs out), a going into menopause thing (I'm 45 and had a hysterectomy 3 years ago, they left the ovaries..so can't really judge that by my absence of periods), or what. All I do know if I just want to get it overwith and if I can take care of him and him leave me alone, I'm fine with it. That use to upset me to no end. This happen to any of you ladies? You all have a good day and stay warm! Sherri

Morning, everyone! I'm gonna spend my day fighting w/ the furnace people. We've had nothing but trouble w/ this unit since it was installed a little over a year ago. I finally broke down and turned the heat on Thur and it worked fine. Yesterday, it wouldn't come on without coaxing. Now today, DH reset it this morning, but it'll only run for about 10 min and shut off again... Sherry - don't know if it's a post-op thing or not. I'm in menopause, too (45 in March) and I couldn't care less about sex either....but mine's been ongoing for several years now. It drives DH crazy, but I can't help it. Mine started around the time my dr found out I was diabetic. That's under control now, but the sex drive never came back. Bren

oohmy that rv has cost some money already... sex drive thing? along with so many other things i think our body adjusted, and we just get back to how we were....for me it is an age thing as well going on here....and hey why take a shower just to get DIRTY again.........LMAO.....now that was funny...

Great news! The exhaust had one little pin-hole in it that they welded shut and the clamps on this one piece of tube was crap so they welded it on. Total cost: $90!! Then we found out that we could have had alot of the work done that we had this other place to do (tune-up, ect) for WAY cheaper...so...we know where we are taking it from now on! Car X is the place!! We filled up the 36 gallon tank (less than $60 so that was pretty darn good!) and then we dropped it off at the generator place for it's tune-up. That only needs done every 100 hours of usage so we'll be good to go for a year or two after that is done. Other than regular oil changes, the most expensive thing will be the gas. So..not too bad. It just seems like alot of $$ to get it where we want it. I guess that's the breaks when you buy a used vehicle...you want to know you can depend on it and you really have no idea if the owner before you took care of stuff the way it should be. With the sex thing....for me, I was interested pre-op...and VERY interested for about the first year post-op. This last year though the interest rate has been on a steady decline. And trust me, I wouldn't mind taking a second shower...if I had the desire to get dirtied up! LOL! Sherri

Funny you bring THAT up. I could care less if I had it, if I pleased him, if it never happened again, or if I ever was interested in it again. I don't know if it's surgery/weightloss related, stress in general, or if I'm just not interested in my own relationship anymore. But I absolutely hate sex... the thought, the act, even watching people get even semi/remotely sexual on t.v. NOT INTERESTED AT ALL. 13.5 months out not even close to menapause - grouchy boyfriend.

Jodi, I guess the timing has to do with he wanted THAT again last night.I think part of it is because he waits till midnight after I've been up since 4 am. By then, all I am thinking about is sleeping. There are times that I wonder if it's 'him' or if it's me. Last night though, I was so tired and knew we had to get up at 5..so at midnight??? I just had the attitude of satisfy him so he'll leave me alone so I can go to sleep. Does that sound as bad to you as it does to me??? I seem to have that feeling the majority of the time though unless it's like at 7 or 8 am and I'm well rested and he is extra sensitive to what I need. When did I become so high maintenance sexually??? He's not grouchy...HE gets taken care of. Meanwhile, I'm not...and I'm getting where I just don't care. That's the part that makes me wonder because I use to care ALOT if I didn't get satisfied too. Sherri ps...Sorry male readers...don't mean to omit you from a daily thread topic.

Well, im only what, 7, almost 8 months post op, and im most certainly NOT in menopause, but my sex drive is way up. Not that it ever took a huge decrease- ever. But darling hubby has it fixed in his mind that if he touches me the baby is going to come out with a misshapen head. It doesnt matter if the dr tells him, or if i show him in i dont know how many books- he refuses. He INSISTS that "once the baby is here" he'll want it again. What dreamland is he living in that he thinks I'll have time for sex with a brand new baby? And after I get through squeezing a watermelon out of a hole the size of a grape, what makes him think I'll ever LET him touch me with that thing again? Hehehe.

I remember being 20/22 and pregnant.... I remember having the sex drive of a nymph..... I remember both happening at the same time!! I DON'T miss not being 20/22 anymore... I DON't miss being pregnant anymore (yeah hysterectomy!!)... But to NOT be a nymph..... At least a little bit???? Now, that I DO miss!! Why is it men are so silly? Do they really think they are built so big that they could reach your touncils?? Or even your belly button????? Believe it or not, you WILL want sex after the little one comes. And most women want it WAY before the 4-6 week recommended absence is done. Just make sure you use protection or you know what you'll be doing for another 9 months!

Well Sherri, Ive always heard the memory was the first thing to go!!! ME

You heard wrong...if the memory had went, I'd no longer remember how 'it' use to be and wonder what happened to 'it'. With me though,'it' wasn't the first thing to go either...that was either the eyes (glasses since I was 14) or my natural hair (gray hairs started at 22). I can live with the glasses and Miss Clairol though...but not wanting sex for the rest of my life, well remembering how I use to be ... There use to be a saying that went something like this 'my get up and go got up and went'. I feel like my 'give a care about sex' did the same thing. It's something that I am VERY concerned about and am hoping that I can find some good advise about. Sherri