Sunday morning and I am glad to be here

Hello everyone, most of you know the health problems I have had these past 6 months and some of the stress I have been under with my oldest and his trials of drinking and smoking pot. Well he got arrested Friday for drink, the hardest thing I have ever done was to leave him there he just turned 18 not even a months ago. But he needed to learn, it killed me, but at 9 pm Saturday night one of his friends that was arreseted also called and told me they were getting him out they felt bad for him. I didn't really have the money to get him out since I have been out of work for so long. But I also was hoping to leave him in to hopefully get him to open his eyes. Well that is the long story here is the short part, and best of all...... Before when I get stressed out I eat and eat even since my surgery, this time I didn't I wanted to but I stoped my self from even opening the refregerator, I did however not get my protien in but I didn't go back to my old habbits, So BIG A THING for me. Now if I can just control myself from doing this I will be doing great. I hope you all have a good day. Lisa B

Awww Lisa my heart goes out to you. I know whereof you speak. I have a son that drinks and smokes pot too. He is now sitting in Putnamville waiting for his outdate of October 12th. I miss him like the dickens but he has to learn that there are consequences to his actions. Congrats on being an overcomer on turning to food for comfort. You are doing great!! Keep it up! Hugs, Trish

Lisa, I have been there with my son so many times i would be a rich woman if i had all the bail money and lawyer money i have forked out over the years. the best thing you can do is tough love. when i was bailing him out it didnt bother him at all to get busted once a month but when i stopped and said i am over it and he had to sit in there for a few days till court and once he spent 10 months.. now he still drinks some but he is much smarter.. i told him if you are going to do it at least be smart about it.. drink at home or in a safe place and dont leave or let any one else leave. Its a no brainer i dont know why kids dont get it. He drinks in his own home and is doing much better now that he knows if he goes in he is on his own. I know the pain it costs you and i feel for ya.. my prayers are with you, its a long hard road for the family. Hope it all works out.. some times it just takes a while. Carla

Thanks everyone. I know he is still going to be in a lot of troble but if I can't get him to stop I am sure the courts will.Thanks for the support. Lisa B

Lisa I am sorry to that son of yours is giving his Mom trouble again. However, that said, I am so proud of you for not turning to food calm your stress. You seem to be doing great these days. You know I had an understanding with all my sons from a very early age, that if you get yourself put in jail, then you will have to get yourself out. I really believe you are doing the right thing for him by not bailing him out. Kids can get very dependent on Mom or Dad bailing them out of there messes they get into. Ann and I had some very good friends who were always bailing there on son out of messes, whether it was at school, drinking, drugs, you name it. He never appreciated what they did for him one bit. Finally at the age of 20 he broke into his parents home and stole about 5 thousand dollars of electronic and camera equipment. That was the last straw and the finally filed charges against him and he spent 15 months in hard time prison. When he came out he was a new man. Went to school at Notre Dame and has a great job in Washington, D.C. Unfortunately his Mom never saw the change since she died of cancer while he was in prison. It is tough love but is something that just has to be done. My boys always knew that if I thought they had been wrongly charged I would be there for them, but they also knew that was the only exception. Just hang in their gal. He is 18 now and is responsible for himself. I will certainly continue to keep both you and the boys in my prayers. Turn it over to the Lord and he will take care of the situation one way or the other. God Bless Dan

Thanks Dan, I know you know the troble this one has put on me. You have been there for me you and Ann are just great. You two take care of your selves. Lisa

Hello Linda, I have niece who has many issues with drinking and drugs. She just can't say no, but when her parents said, she would always call Aunt Gail. NO MORE. I love her to much. I cried over2 hours the first time, it gets a little easier. But it really takes time. I hope and pray after I have surgery I will be as strong as you when something comes up that major stressful. Hugs and Blessings, Gail

Lisa I am so PROUD of you!!! I am glad you didnt turn to food... so what you didnt get your protien in on that stressful day.. you found another way to deal with the stress and heartache.. You will get the protien in on another day and for all the right reasons!! I had a little brother who drank and his x wife did the pot.. she never got caught and he was always arrested for the drinking.. I bailed him out once and told him never again... he FINALLY grew up...so I am here to tell you it DOES happen.. They eventually do grow up.. Linda