Rude?

I am not sure I should be peeved by this but I am! I went to this small bridal shop down the street to get measured for the wedding in September. Since this shop was not involved in the wedding at all, I decided to ask the owner's opinion about my WLS and ordering the dress etc. I explained I was having WLS in a week and the wedding would be 2 months after that. I should lose 50-60lbs by then, what does she think I should do? Well this lady proceeds to say "You're not that over weight! You don't need surgery." OK thanks but I need to lose 150 lbs and that's not what I asked you about. She then says "Well I can't imagine you would lose that much, the first month you'll be really swollen." OK again, she isn't answering my question. Finally I get her to say order 2 sizes smaller. That seems like a lot to me. So basically I got my measurments and left. As I'm leaving she says "You be sure to be careful!" Would this annoy anyone else? Responses like this are why I am not telling many people! Lordy! Sam

Unfortunately Sam, there are alot of uninformed people out there just like the woman at the bridal shop. Shrug it off. 2 months post-op, I had lost 50 pounds exactly. I had also lost 3.25" from my breast, 7" from my waist, and 4.25" from my hips. I'm 5'6" and started off 200 lbs overweight. Perhaps if other women can give their stats at 2 months, it may help you judge better on what to do. I don't think the woman was trying to be rude...just WLS ignorant. Sherri

Hey! How was Vegas! I ended up calling the shop today and saying my Dr. had me on a strict diet so whatever dress I am on now, just order one size smaller. She said she would make a note. Lord knows what I will end up with!! I'll just have to get it altered the week before the wedding or so. Reactions like that make me glad I am keeping this private. Sam

Sam, I had even wls people tell me I didn't look like I needed the surgery because I was right on the line. But it sure was awful funny that for years I have had to listen to people ask me when was my baby due. Go figure. Lisa B

People tell me I am melting away and dont need to lose more weight... the Dr tells me at least 50 more pounds and I want to go to at least 75 more.. Of course my OH friends say all the right things.

Sam, I had a lady in the elevator at work ask me how I was losing weight. When I told her I'd had wls, she said "I thought that was just for, you know, big people." I just smiled and told her I carried it well. Don't let it bother you. They don't mean to be rude and they certainly don't understand what we had to go through to make our decision, let alone get approved. Many people have misconceptions about this type of surgery and there is no way to educate them all. Just worry about educating the people who are important to you and smile at the rest. Cindy