Getting tires of stories!!!

I am sick of my mother who was supportative before I had approval telling me stupid stories about relatives I've never heard of being under some type of supervised weight loss and dying. OK I know she's worried but she's lying! I explain all of my physicians requirements and my reasons and she comes up with something else. I'm just sick of it I know it's being selffish but why can't she leave me alone. I have researched this for about 3 years my husband fully supports this and we trust the Bariatric office isn't that what counts. Then she says stuff like I'll wait after a couple of years and see how you do then I might get it done too. Am I crazy?? She goes on to say she's not overweight and doesn't overeat I guess that's why she is 5'7" and 350lbs. That its all in my head I'm not heavy just HEALTHY!!!! Bullsh%^&%T. Anyway I fell better now Tina

Boy is she living in a state of denial or what!. Don't let her dictate what you do. You are the only one that knows what is best for you and what you are ready for. You are ready to start living. I don't know how old your mom is but I was 51, 5'4" and 325. I couldn't do anything with out being out of breath. I found my self just sitting in front of the tube and getting in worse and worse shape. Does she really want that for you? Although it would be nice to have her support, you don't need it. You are and adult and you can get all the support you need with your friends here at OH. We've all been there. Maybe she is just jealous that you have the courage to do this. Go for it girl and good luck.

Mom is 52 and just like you were just sits in front of the tube and complains about everything and everybody. I know she's scared hell I'm scared a little. Her recent health problems have really helped push me to go with this now I want to live for my kids (all 3 of them) not for food. I just want to enjoy my life and I love my mom but I don't want to be like her and be bitter about things I can change. Thanks for listening Tina

I think she is just really scared.... I'd cut her a little slack.. You know what you want, and you know what is best for you.. She'll be fine after your surgery is done, and your losing weight and being truthfully "healthy"... But she is living in a world of denial if she truthfully thinks 350 is a healthy... My family is being really supportive,, since they don't understand what being overweight is like.. My sister is like 112 lbs, my step mom is a like 105, and my dad is a big whopping 160.. So me being the 322lb person,, definately stands out in my family!!!!

waving my hand here...i am 52 ...i have a daughter 31 i would support her all the way...and i really wish she would think more about having the surgery..i ain't gonna lie i would be soooo worried and she is my baby and my heart.............but she is young and she could so live life.......... this surgery is personnl you chose to have it or not...my daughter chooses not to have it........i brought it up to her one time.....and i dare not bring it up again.....

Tina~ Don't let her get you down and don't let her discourage you! Sure, it would be great to have the support of your mother, but honestly your probably better off. I'm sorry to say that but I can personally tell you that I dealt with some of the same things. I was so tired of hearing negative things from my family. It was like they were predicting that I was either going to die or I would gain all of my weight back. , the surgery is risky but so is being 350 pounds!!!! I just said that I'd rather die trying to lose this weight than die because of it. Keep reminding yourself that you are doing this for you. Your happiness should be the most important. ((Hugs)) Jaimee

I am 50.. I let my 60 year old sister have it first 5 years ago... the ONLY reason I kept putting it off is I didnt want to have an upper GI... worked out that an endoscope had to be done to rule out something my FAT body was haveing trouble with so I told them to look good, write a good report and if I was healthy enough I was going to go thru it now!! Dr McCune looked good wrote me a good report and suggested who I should go see... He said the horrible pain I was having was my fat pressing againt my lungs.. and it would go away when I lost the weight... he was right!! Age has nothing to do with what mom is saying... I thinkit is fear of seeing her baby go thru it... Personally I wouldn't talk my son out of the surgery... but I would still probably be a fatalist and worry that he would have some complications I didnt have..Us moms just hate the thought of seeing our kids go thru ANY discomfort... But that is just me.. But then again... I am worrying about the weight he is carrying around knowing he is going to h ave a heart attack I wont be able to stop no matter how much I worry... sigh... And I worry about messing up his self esteem by saying anything about his weight... Linda