Did you ever think you would fail?

Did you ever feel that you would fail after the surgery & still be fat? Right now that is my biggest fear - - Every attempt at weight loss has always ended up as a failure. I'm scared to death...... Please let me know your thoughts. Thanks Kristi surgery: August 1st, 2006

stick with any and all support you can...stick to the plan and you will be just fine.....i believe we all have those fears...i know i do

Kristi I can really relate to that. For weeks now all Ive had to worry about was a denile letter. Now that is out of the way failure has been the next thing on my mind. I have to say... I have only known of 4 ppl to have this surgery and all of them failed. One lady my parents knew had it back in the '70s when I was a kid. I remember her so vividly. She was sick all the time and seemed like she was always spending more time on the john than anything else. Then there are 3 ppl here where I work now that had it before I moved here to IN. All of these ppl are over 10 yrs out and all have gained back all their wt. Never did I hear of anyone having a good outcome until I found all of the wonderful ppl on here. Now Im feeling better about it. I know they have made so many improvements in the procedure. Plus, We have the fortune to have so many ppl that have succesfully went thru it and with all their knowledge and support we will have a much better time of it. Lucky for us to have found so many supportive ppl that dont mind teaching us and sharing with us all that they have learned. So now with all that support how can we fail?? Lets find something new to worry about....Like how we are going to pay for all those hot new sexy clothes. Mariah

I'm post op now, and i STILL feel like it's too good to be true. I just wait for the scale to start creeping back up as it always did. The thing about it is tho, I'm only 3.5 months out, and I feel so much better now than I did. Although it's REALLY discouraging when you see people who had surgery the same time as you and are now wearing size 16s when you are just starting to comfortably fit into a 26. But then, I just now weigh what most of those people started at, and I have to remind myself of that almost everyday. 76 pounds in 3.5 months is NOT bad weight loss at all. It also is a good incentive to get my fanny out there and excersise. After only 3 months I can see SUCH a difference on days I excersise and take my vitamins vs days that I don't make time for it. And since I like watching that number go down on the scale faster than 1/ week, I have made excersise a more important task for myself. I've just come to far to let the weight loss stop or to start gaining it back, and you just have to tell yourself that everyday. It's a struggle just to get approved and healed up from surgery. Why waste that struggle?

Darrah, You are doing an amazing job. Keep up the exercise, I really think that is a great thing to do for yourself. So many dont exercise and you can tell a big difference. I am pouring out of 28...should be in a 32 but they are hard to find here. So I wear alot of elastic pants....God how I cant wait to be free of those!!!!! Mariah

Kristi, I am almost 3 years post-op (July 30th will be 3 years) and I still think about it. I think most of us have spent a large portion of our lives on every diet there was available, only to fail. Once you have the surgery, you will find that this is like nothing you have ever experienced before. I lead a support group in Bloomington and I continually am telling them that even if I let my guard down and eat too much, it is no where near what I ate beforel--and I will be miserable. We all makes mistakes with our eating, whether it be trying to eat "just one more bite", or eating junk food because we're hungry but we can get back on track much easier (in my opinion!!). Look at this like a new start to your life. I can honestly tell you that every aspect of my life has changed--for the good!! I am going to attempt a triathalon in August -- who would have ever thought!!!! I am here if you need someone to talk to or have any questions!!! Take Care. Sandy 7/30/06 Dr. Cacucci

I'm right there with ya sister! I think part of it is just in our heads...i mean really. we wouldn't be having this surgery if we hadn't failed at every other thing that we tried. so we think that we're destined to fail again. For me what I've noticed is OK, so I've lot over 50 pounds, but I'm still overweight.....still fat....still can't fit into this or that. But then I have to remind myself of how far I've come and continue on the road that we've started to go down. we'll get there. we've been given a GREAT tool to succeed and we will suceed this time. I had many more fears of failing before surgery than I do now. Especially in the beginning when we start seeing the scales move down for the first time in years.....it's a great feeling.

Hi Kristi~ I am post op and I still feel like I may fail. I'm also scared to death that I will never hit goal. Sometimes I think people expect me to fail... When I was pre-op and told people that I was having the surgery I would hear that they know someone- who knows someone who had the surgery and gained all of their weight back, etc. While the surgery is a tool to help you lose weight, the same head stuff remains. Don't you wish they could operate on your head while they have you under!? Take away all of those insecurities and self sabatogizing thoughts! LOL! Jaimee