laziness

I don't know what to do I have become very lazy the past couple of months.I have gained 30lbs. back.My realationship is not good I am not happy with him I feel no love from that direction.I am always tired anymore.I have no umph! anymore.I am going through hot flashes during the days and night sweats while I am sleeping,but my doctor says my hormone levels are fine.I am just so exhausted anymorebut not doing much to make myself feel that way.I am 30 yrs.old and have just gotten back from the first vacation of my life and the first time being out of state.I went with my boyfriend for a week and a half and I had a miserable time.I was bored I wanted to get up and do things and all he wanted to do is sit around and talk to his family the whole time____ I didn't mean to seem selfish but I wanted to do things and he considered it as complaining and whining and is now thinking about breaking up with me.He just don't seem to understand I don't want to just sit around anymore I did that al my lifeand now I can move again so I want to go,go,go.I don't know what to do about any of this.Anyone have any suggestions? Candi