Ok, Ihave a question for ...

Ok, Ihave a question for ya'll. I've not got a surgery date, but I am a worry wart and I've stressed about this from the day I got my papers from Dr. O's office. When I have the surgery, if things go well, I will be in there 4 days max. I told my husband that I want him there the day I have surgery and the day I'm scheduled to leave. His choice if he wants to stay inbetween. I figured I wouldnt really be up to much company and may enjoy the peace and quiet(minus the nurses,etc), and thought maybe he could make a couple of local runs while I'm in there for extra money. Ok, so here's my question.... 1.) Am I wrong for feeling like that? Will I want/need him to be there? 2.) When I do get home, he's planning on taking a week off from work- that is hospital time and after(so he'd actually only be home with me for 3 or 4 days), is that enough time for me to get to feeling better and to be able to do for my 2 y/o? If not, how long should he stay home to help me out? Now, my mom lives just right up the hill from me, and they are going to help me out, but I HATE depending on anyone. Even my husband. I like to do for myself and wondering if that is possible. I'm sure I have more questions, but I'll save those for when I have a surgery date.

Lora, Everybody is different.. I'm very independent and don't like depending on anyone either.. but I did enjoy having company who knew me while I was in the hospital... even the first day when I was in and out of consciousness a lot. You may do better without people hovering over you.. but for me (since I live alone), I liked having people who cared for me with me when they could be. As for your time post-op until you can care for your 2yr old.. Where is Melissa when ya need her?! I was able to do for myself the day I got home (3days post op) but I got tired very easily for about a week and a half, almost two weeks.. and slept A LOT.. However, you've got your mom up the hill, as you said.. maybe she can come by for a few hours during the day after your husband goes back to work? You'll just have to see how it goes and how you feel.. Try not to worry too much about it.. it'll all work out and you'll have what you need, when you need it. Stef

Hmmmm....dealing with a 2 y/old post op? You might want a little extra assisstnace. 'Course I wouldn't want to deal with a 2 y/old no-op...so I may be the wrong person to ask

Well, I'm just speaking from my own experience here but... There really is no reason for him to be with you IN the hospital. You are going to be doing a LOT of sleeping and walking. Both of which you are able to do alone. 3-4 days after you get out of the hospital...*I* was ok. BUT my child is also 3. AND well...I was left alone with her THE DAY I GOT HOME. (NOT A GOOD IDEA MIGHT I ADD!) If your little one is an absolute trouble maker and getting into everything...it may not be the best idea. BUT...it all depends on YOU. What is YOUR tolerance for pain. How are YOU going to feel? If you have someone close by that you can call and say, "I just can't handle this can you help?" I wouldn't worry too much. Just remember...there is NOTHING wrong with asking for help. This isn't a quick in and out and on your way. And 2 year olds are rotten little beasts. LOL