somone did a drive by flamming on me

No I didn't. I was being kind. You cry wolf an awful lot you know...

see.. this is the danger of internet message boards.. If you say something truthful that is not what the person wants to hear, you're "flaming" them.. so like, I can't come out and tell you that I find it eternally annoying when you post a baited thread like this and do one of those "scroll down if you want to know" things (which by the way is an instant cue for me to find another thread) without you getting ticked. See.. I am one of those people who would immediately leap to your aid, if you needed it.. and getting baited into a thread like this -- thinking you need help -- only to find that it's just a big joke...THAT is annoying as heck and a waste of my time. I'm pretty protective of my time and I don't like it when other people waste it. I also can't tell you (or anyone) that I find it eternally annoying when ANYONE can't spell the simplest words. Particularly when it's probably not that you're actually illiterate.. it's probably just laziness. It's a pet peeve of mine. I point it out in anything I read.. whether it's on the internet or in emails or at work. You have only one chance to make a first impression.. if you're doing it with the written word, make the effort to make sure it's a good first impression and keep it up. We all make typos from time to time.. but come on. Prove to the rest of the world that U.S. public schools aren't the dismal failure they appear to be based on our grammar!! Saying this doesn't mean I like you any less.. it just means something you're doing is annoying me. I don't know any other way to say it than to just SAY it so there it is. You can get mad at me if you like, but honestly, there is no malice intended in what I'm saying to you.. it's just the way I feel. Take it or leave it.. but I feel better once I've gotten it off my chest. Stef

You know i had alot to say about your remarks too ,but i was going to hold my tongue. Until i decided to sink to your level.Well first of all i wrote it cause I was trying to wake up the board,and get some people talking,and get a laugh.It was a joke that I'm guessing you couldn't take. Second of all i don't need you to leap to my aid(THIS IS THE INTERNET )i can shut it off or handle it myself.I'm guessing you have to much time on your hand if your going around looking for people to defend,and to correct their grammar. I find that annoying and Dis respectful that you would have nothing better to do then to belittle someone cause their grammar and spelling is off. I always have a good time here and have nothing bad to say about anyone,yet you have been nothing but mean to me today,and i don't know you from a hole in the wall. My mom used to say if you can't say nothing nice then don't say nothing at all! geeeez teacher want to go over my letter and see if i spelled anything wrong?.How petty you are!

Well, Chandra, it's clear you are incapable of taking constructive criticism, even when it's offered with every possible attempt to be gentle with your oh-so-fragile young ego. I appreciate your distaste for the truth, though I don't share it. Perhaps I can do this another way: When you decide to post on the board, please be mature enough to title your thread with what it is about. When you started this thread, you titled it in a way that you knew would get a lot of people to look at it. It's like that old grade-school game of "guess what!- Chicken Butt!" Most of us grew out of that in about.. ohh.. third grade? Please do not bait your readers. Some of us DO come here to offer people advice and help and answer questions as well as get information and answers to our own questions. It's fine if you want to play -- we all play -- but please be clear when you post that your thread is OFF TOPIC. If if what you ahve to say is interesting/funny/helpful, your title should draw your readers, not their innate sense of consideration for their board mates. Kindly be considerate of the people on this board and do not mis-use our kindnesses as you did today. Thanks, Stef

Okay, I'm guessing that I'm going to be told to butt out or take a hike, but this whole discussion is really sad. Maybe it's because it's near the holidays, or maybe people are just testy or hormonal, or God knows what, but I really hate to see people argue on a board. I've been a moderator on MSN for several years, and we could always tell when the full moon was near. That's not the case, but it's still sad when people get upset over little things, and believe me, this is not worth it. Maybe it's time to take a deep breath, and let the whole thing go. Terry

Thanks, Terry. I won't tell you to butt out. I was a moderator and administrator for another very busy discussion forum for a long time and I know exactly what you're talking about. I said it before, I'll say it again. No malice was intended with what I had to say to Chandra. I still hold no malice. I just don't believe in swallowing my frustrations anymore.. if we don't tell people they are annoying, how will they know? My request for titling threads to match their content is a legitimate one. I don't like being toyed around with. You wouldn't want to get an email titled, "YOUR MOM IS IN THE HOSPITAL!" and then open it and find "just kidding.. hahaha" would you? And I'm *still* not mad about any of it.. I just wish Chandra could take the criticism in the spirit in which it was intended and agree not to do that again. IMO, it's a rude practice. Most people don't do things like that. Stef

I totally understand where you are coming from. So my question to you is, am I annoying??? I know I can be to my husband and kids, so I'm just wondering if I do the same to you all here. If I ever do anything that bothers someone, I would hope that they would be honest and tell me. Just like the other day, when I posted about the psych eval report on the main board, I looked over my post before I submitted, it and I'll be darned if I didnt miss a couple of words that I misspelled. But there is no edit button on here and you pointed that out to me. That I appreciated, along with the other you had said. I probably just made no sense, my kids are fighting and I'm trying to find the right words inbetween making the peace with them..lmao Ok, I'm done now. Getting off my soap box and sitting back in my corner of the boards.

Lora, I promise, if you ever do anything that's annoying (which you haven't) I would tell you. Just as I would tell my mom, my brother, my boyfriend, my friends in real life, my friends online... It's not worth it to keep swallowing frustrations like that. Up until a few years ago, that's what I would do and it does nothing but cause you heartache and bodyache! I've learned it's better for you (and the person you tell, in the long run) to just tell the truth. It may hurt a little now, but how much better is it to get a little pain now than to wait, be lied to and find out later how long someone you thought cared about you let you go on being that way? The hurt of delay would be so much more. Your post about your psych eval was not annoying in the slightest.. you were asking for input.. plus, you may not know it but what you posted may help someone else who's going through the process but doesn't have the courage to ask. Stef

You have nothing to feel bad about. I think that Stef is being rude and acting like a jerk. think god she don't try to spell check post or she will be busy all of the time, BTW I don't care if she want to waste her time proof reading my post (My spelling suck and I know it)