Monday Roll Call

Crystal,

The movie woman is just a body; you are a person with a personality, a soul--the body doesn't matter, except to carry your personality around. I can admire a beautiful body, a lovely painting, etc, but I don't want that body nor the painting. My partner Kay and I love to check out sexy woman together, but neither of us is even slightly interested in being with that body.

Connie

Connie. I always figure men are different creatures then we are. When they see a beautiful body I think they are Fantasying about being with them or what they look like naked. When I see a guy I find attractive I don't think of what it would be like to have sex with him or what he looks like naked. And I think that's what men do.

Ask him if that is what he does!

I have to agree with Connie on this one.

Both Todd and I have "fantasy" people that we think are "hot".  For example, I LOVE Roger Daltrey (of the Who)....always have.  I think he is just as hot at 67 or (whatever he is) as he was in the 1970's.  Todd KNOWS I love Roger and teases me sometimes, but always tells me when he will be on TV so I can drool.  NOW.......I know and Todd knows that I would NEVER "get together" with Roger (he is actually happily married and has been forever). 

I think it is important to realize that Chris loves YOU, and is with YOU by choice.  He could NEVER be with this woman (especially since the movie is from the 60's.....think what she looks like now, if still alive).  A healthy appreciation of beauty does not mean he thinks less of you.  Todd loves me for me, and tells me I am beautiful in his eyes.  (At least he used to often.)

Now......sometimes, Todd will go a little overboard oogling pretty women in public.  If that happens, I just tell him to knock it off as it is hurting my feelings.  At least it makes him not be vocal about them.

I also agree with Connie.......if it will make you more secure, ASK him.