Friday Roll Call

Good Morning to All,

TGIF, the end to another work week. And the start to a nice weekend. Maybe the rain will wait until Saturday night, so it won't ruin anyones plans.

I am cleaning house and running errands today, then out to dinner with friends, At sometimes today, I want to finish my closet that I have been working on for a week. It needs to get done.

What are you doing today?

Hugs,

Hello everyone

Yeah!!!  It's Friday!!!  Woohoo!!!

Today no errands to run after work.  I am going home and making mini chicken pot pies for dinner.  And working out.  Thats about it...maybe I might hit a thrift store, but I will see how I feel...I might not be feeling thrifty.

Yesterday I was sad to hear that Dominicks was closing.  I was just starting to shop there on a regular basis the few months.  I really liked their organic selection.  Oh well. 

Tomorrow we are going into the city so Chris can do so employee stuff at Northwestern.  But we figured while we were out there why not make another day of it...this time with the kids.  But of course it looks like it could rain.  We will make the best of it.  So if it doesn't rain too much it wll be Lincoln Park Zoo!!!  If it storms...then it's the Field Museum.  But while we were there last time I saw a place I want to try out...it's called Epic Burger.  They use all natural ingredients and organic meat and products.  And they have a turkey burger!!!  And for the kids they have milk shakes!!!  It's right by the hospital.  So we are eating there for lunch then going to the zoo.  Yeah!!! 

Sharon-  I don't know about the gym you were talking about but I looked it up and it looks fabulous.  A non-contractual membership is $45 a month.  Not bad for what you get.  The only draw back to having a gym by work is that you almost never will drive over to work out on non-work days...at least I didn't.  Because I worked 40 minutes from my job (also bad on gas).  I had a job that had a gym free right there at work.  So if I took a day off or on holidays and weekends...I almost never went in. 

Well I got to get going...have a great Friday

 

 

 

Good evening to all.......

I am sorry for being cryptic on Facebook........I HATE when that happens.  Problem is........I HOPE that my husband is having ED.  If not........there is a mistress......

I LOVE Todd because I was always SURE that he would NEVER cheat on me.  Now........I am feeling unsure.  He refuses to talk to me and when he used to CHASE me aroumd.........He will not even come near me.......He is actually sleeping on the couch......a floor below.

Won't talk to me or be intimate with me..........he say

s it is all  to be all MY fault.

Dawn-  Oh I am so sorry that is what your message is about.  As you may know I have so much experience with this.  I know exactly how you feel and I almost think it's worse not knowing and wondering...than just having it all out in the open.  Unfortunately, what I usually tell my friends is go with your gut feeling.  My gut was always right.  I was with this guy affair after affair. I became quite the expert after 10 years of cheating.  And I know the SAFE feeling you are talking about.  I feel the same way about Chris.  I feel like he would never cheat on me.  If you need to talk or lean on me...PM me and we can talk on the phone. 

Now I will give you some of my knowledge...like I said I was with a cheater for 10 years. 

Now if you want to know for sure you will have to become a detective of sorts...because the cheater almost never confesses.  They will always claim they are innocent.  Mine went so far as to call me immature, crazy and in need of therapy...because I kept insisting he was cheating...guess what...he was!!! 

Here are some signs-

So does he disappear?  Cheating takes time away from home.  Is he gone from the house more than usual and has excuses like overtime at work (and can't account for it), out with friends, something anything that takes him away from the house and away from you.

Is he moody?  He might pick fights and use that as an excuse to get out of the house....or as an inner justification to cheat on you. 

Is he taking more care with his looks?  He may start dressing nicer, shaving before he leaves, putting on cologne when he didn't before...

Is he more secretive?  My ex never let me near his cell phone.  He would hang up the phone when I came near (or not pick up the phone when I was around).  He also hid his car keys.  One day while he was in the shower I found them went into the trunk of his car and found out why.  There were lover letters, a bra, odd belongings that didn't belong to me like a hair brush. 

Is money unaccounted for?  Suddenly more money is being spent and no accounting for it. 

And of course you already mentioned the loss of intimacy..not just sex but the closeness.  The cuddling, the "i love u's", the kisses, the hand holding when you are walking...what ever level of intimacy you had...when there's a sudden drop...something is wrong. 

Now I know I sound crazy but you know if your husband won't give you the answers...I decided to find out for myself.  And I got my answer.  I guess my only question to you is to be sure you want to know the answer.  For me not knowing was worse.

Again I am sooo sorry this is such a hurtful thing to go through.  Whether it's true or not the not... 

Dear One,

I dont think he is cheating. My heart tells me it is not that. I am still praying. Hugs, Sharon

 

Psalm 20:4-5 (New International Version)

4 May he give you the desire of your heart
and make all your plans succeed. 5 We will shout for joy when you are victorious
and will lift up our banners in the name of our God.
May the LORD grant all your requests.   Dear Father, Bless Dawn with her desires for a sweet faithful marriage. Bless her desire to stand upright and see the open highway you have for her in all aspects of her life. Proverbs 15: 18-20. Be One in the triad, in his relationship with her husband. May Your hand be at work in straightening out the crooked places.We now ask that You would make it happen.
In Jesus' name,
Sharon

 

Thank you so much!