Hello everyone

Yesterday me and Chris had a disagreement.  I say disagreement because I refused to let it degenerate into an argument.  I cut the the conversation.  Maybe I shouldn't have done that but I could see that is where things were going.   So I said...I refuse to argue about this and I'm tired goodnight, talk to you tomorrow.  That was it.  But it all started because I got upset because I realized he not only forgot my middle name but could not spell my last name.  Now I realize my last name is a difficult one but he is a smart guy.  And I know guys can be forgetful about birthdays and things.  But I will admit it hurt my feelings that he didn't know my full name.  My jealousy started to rear its ugly head but I kept it under control.  The green eyed monster in me wanted to point out that I'm sure he knows his ex's full name.  But I didn't.  I gave him my name and told him to memorize it.  Then I thought I am not going to get into a fight.  He was getting defensive, I was upset and jealous...it wasn't going to go any where.  So I ended the conversation abruptly.  I hope he's not too angry...possibly he is thankful I ended it.  I would think most guy would be.  

Connie- I read that book and part of the reason I ended the conversation is because I knew what was happening now.  I saw the conversation and my feelings and thought I know where this is going.  I need to end this and talk when I am not so emotional.  I know he has to read the book so he is not so clueless.  But so much I read was...ya I do that...ya I feel that way. 

Today after work I am making dinner and baking.  I didn't around to yesterday.  I ended up doing all of my weekend cleaning....so no cleaning this weekend.  I do have to run to the store for things I forgot the other day.  That is it. 

So what are you all up to today????

Well I have to get ready for work now...have a good day...see you all later...

 

 

Your Erroneous Zones???

When I was young and in school a girl and I lived together from summer through spring.  I can tell you that to this day I do not know her middle name and that it never actually came up.  We seldom even used our last names.  I think there was an s on the end of her last name.

The lady I have been married to for 34 years has a middle name which is the same as our older daughter's middle name.  They both came to me with those names and last names that we changed.  For the lady there was also a maiden name, her grandmother's names and many family member's names to learn.  I think middle names are easier remembered for children because they are useful in conveying positive and negative reinforcement.

I chose our younger daughter's middle name and I still have to think a moment to get the spelling right.  If there is a Bible around and my mind is really foggy I can go there and find it.

You should not expect your guy to be a girl.  If it turns out he really, really likes Return to Me, or will be quiet and eat what you feed him while you watch it that will be acceptable.

Randy,

You always make me smile at your very cool sense of humor.

Be well my friend.

Hugs,

Sharon Ann

Happy Friday the 13th to Everyone.

I am glad today isn't yesterday. I was having problems with my hip, where it was going into spasms and I had to use the cane all day. I was really having difficulties getting up or down.

Boeing Boeing was a fun play to see last night. Even Hubert was smiling and chuckling a lot.

Crystal, what book did Connie suggest to you?

Today I am working in Ottawa. I am going to 2 high rises. Then, I am going to Cato's for a black skirt I need. I want to wear it tomorrow. If I don't find it, I have another standby ready.

Hugs,

 

Lisa- it's a book called Struggling for Intmacy....and its for adult children of alcoholics.  Because we grew up in such a dysfunctional environment we have no idea how to cope, act, receive and give love, so on because we have no experiences from childhood to draw on.    

Good morning friends,

A day with no plans--what a thought! It's ten and I've only managed to shower, get dressed and put a load of wash in. Now the wash is minimal because it is in the bathroom, so no carrying up or down. I don't even have any ideas of what to do, but I'm loving the cool air coming in the windows.

The book Crystal mentioned in written by Janet Woititz. It's got to be 30 years old but still a powerhouse if you grew up in any kind of dysfunction. When Kay and I were first together we read it out loud to each other and talked about each paragraph or concept as it applied to us. Made a huge difference in those kind of arguments that Crystal described. And how great, Crystal, that you say yourself and stepped back from the argument. Good job!

I'm sure all you workers are glad it's Friday, so enjoy it!

Connie

Hello My Dear ones,

Ok, it is brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr now that the sun has set. I LOVE IT. Great sleeping weather. I heard it will be warm again next week sometime.

Crystal, I. too, have a book that is awesome about the way men think. Men are so different from women and they dont put a lot of emphasis on the same things we do. At the same time, they get hurt by things we say that are not meant to hurt them. Things I would have never dreamed of. When I talked about those things with G, he surprised me by admitting that those things did bother him.  I believe this book has saved a ton of relationships. It's called,

For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men

by Shaunti Feldhahn(Author)   http://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-Revised-Updated-Edition/dp/1601424442   Ok, I hit the mother lode today. I was looking for something to do when I happened to see a Goodwill nestled behind the Costco in Bolingbrook. I decided to give it a try. OMG. I usually spend about 10 dollars on a visit to GW. Today I spent $76.00. I bought a new black cashmere sweater and some  black slacks that were new. I also bought 2  Eddie Bauer cotton sweat shirts that were like new and a thick heavy wool cardigan that looks like Joseph's amazing technicolor dreamcoat. HAHAHAHAHHAHA. I also bought a brand new Kate Spade purse and a gorgeous JCrew purse. I found a J Crew shirt that was new and a few other things for G and my daughter. I was in heaven! That place rocks. Since it's right off 355 it is actually the closest one to me. Yippy!.   G is at his mom and dad's house this evening. He stopped after work. I am a single lady tonite.My plans are to eat some frozen pizza (my favorite) and catch up on my TIVO.   Ok, my dahlinks, I am off to veg.   Hugs,   Sharon      

ps....I miss Nancy

Has anyone talked to her lately???????????????????????????

Me

Good Evening Everyone

Another week is over and gone bye bye!  Yea!  I have to teach a check class tomorrow morning so my weekend is a little shorter. But that is ok.  I can always use the $$$$$.  And I like teaching the class.  For some reason, teaching is my first love.  

It has been a really busy week again at work.  I hate to think of what it will be like in our busiest times if it is this busy during our slower times.    I am trying to take things one day at a time.  What will happen is going to happen and there is nothing I can do to change anything.  So if I go down, I go down trying.  

Today I had an eye appointment.  I was sure I needed new glasses and they told me my only problem was dry eyes.  Glad I dont have to cough up money for new glasses right now.  

Connie, it is so good to hear you getting back to your old self.  That is so exciting.

Randy, I love the sense of humor.  I grew up with my dad always calling me my sisters names so I just laugh when it comes to names.  

Crystal, I know it is important to us to have our boyfriends remember certain things, but I have given up expecting a man to remember a lot of stuff.  It sure saves me a lot of grief.  I do not know if Rick could tell anyone my middle name and I sure am not going to put him to the test because, I dont want to find out because it might make me feel hurt if he didn't.   Besides, Rick and I can find plenty to disagree about.  

Lisa, I am glad you enjoyed your play.  Why did you work today?  I thought you were off on Fridays.  

Sharon, it sounds like you had a great find in your Goodwill store!  Lots of goodies!  Great job!  Also the book sounds like a good one.  Will have to get it. 

Everyone enjoy the great weather tomorrow!