Thursday Roll Call

Good morning Illinoisans!

I went knitting yesterday and could tell that I was stronger than the week before. But we had to go to a visitation last night and after I stood in line, I knew I was wiped so I asked to go to the front of the line. Fortunately, they were willing to let me do this. An NSV happened too. one of the clients I saw for MANY years was there and he almost didn't recognize me because I am so much thinner. That was cool. I'll take those moments. By the time I got home, I was so tired that I just sat in my chair all evening, couldn't even watch TV or read. I learned that one thing a day is all these days. It will change.

I know lots of you have big things to deal with. I think about each of you and wish you well.

Connie

Crystal (and whoever else might need this), There is a book called Struggle for Intimacy by Janet Woititz which talks about the issues in relationships that come from alcoholic and other dysfunctional families. Kay and I read it out loud and discussed it, sometimes even paragraph by paragraph. We were able to share with each other the depth of our insecurities. Now if I feel jealous, I just say "I'm feeling jealous of this situation. I know it's my stuff, but I just need to tell you". I don't expect her to fix it, but it's out in the open. Later I might say " I wish these things didn't trigger me, but look how less often it happens than it used to".The basis of a healthy relationship is being able to own our own stuff and not make it be about our partner or even an ex.

Hope this helps,

Connie

Connie-  I looked up that book and was very impressed.  I ordered it today.

Good Morning,

It is looking a bit gray outside. Maybe rain? If not, I will have to water the front yard and garden today. They are both getting a bit dry.

This is my official last day of vacation. I start working tomorrow. I can't say I haven't enjoyed the time off, but I have to admit, I don't know how anyone can stay home all the time.

No real plans for today. Just a few things to do. I do need to get gas later for the crossover.

Connie, those NSVs are a good thing. I am slowly getting into jeans and things I haven't worn in a couple of years. It makes you feel good.

Hugs,

 

Good morning everyone!

It is break for me so a quick stop by. 

Connie, you crack me up when you talk about naming your drain!    I am so sorry you still get so tired so easily but that is natures way of reminding you to slow down and dont hurry the healing process.

Kim, I am so relieved to hear that they were able to drain excess fluid without reinstalling a drain.  Perhaps it is still to early to travel for work.  I am sure they understand.  The certainly do not want you in the ER room while working.

Lisa, enjoy your last day of freedom.  I am so sorry it is so hot today for your. 

Dawn, hope all is well fo you.

Crystal, my thoughts are with you.  I still have those jealous feeling especially when the ex expect him to carry out her honey do list etc.  THAT burns me up.  But I bite my tongue for the most part.  I try to remember that Rick is Gage's dad.  I do put my foot down occasionally like when it is a holiday. 

Sharon, what are you up to today? 

Buffy tried to steal a toy and take it outside last night but it would not fit through the cat door.  Too funny.,

Everyone have a great day! 

Nancy-  OMG she has Chris doing favors for her too.  But that didn't even bug me.  She needed him to take her to the collision repair place to drop off her car and then go take her to get a rental (of course the rental place would do this for you).  Stuff like that.  He also went and watched his kids every day M-Thr all summer long (they have opposite work schedules to allow for this)...I had no problem with these things.  For some reason they seemed more on the level of business.  So I guess I don't mind interaction between them if it's impersonal or about the kids. 

But this party was more personal and they had to interact on a more personal level for a longer period of time and not just in passing.  And like I said the woman still has a thing for him. UGH....I guess the price you for falling for a man with an ex with kids!!!       

Good morning Connie and the rest of Illinois!

Congrats on the NSV and take it slow.  I know that you are used to being on the go, but one thing at a time will be the way to go for a while.  Also, thanks for the book recomendation.

I wound up making my first trip into Rockford proper since I lost m job yesterday.  I had to go in and straighten out the insurance issue.  I also dropped a couple of books on disk back to the library then high-tailed it out of there!  Funny, but I just did not want to be there.  I like my quiet village.

I also wound up making an awesome creamy, beef, wild mushroom and wild rice soup for dinner yesterday.  My neighbor across the street brought me some "Hen of the Woods" mushrooms on Monday.  They are MY FAVORITE.  Tuesday night, we had some for dinner and last night, I decided to make a soup that I could share with him and his wife.  I looked up a bunch of recipes, but none of them were quite what I was looking for, so I combined the ideas and made my own.  I should of written it down as I went.  It was so delicious that David ate 2 bowls and he usually won't eat mushrooms!

Today, I may be planting some hostas that my mother-in-law gave me.

Saturday, we are going to Madison for the Rad Run.  There is still time to join our team if you wish (Rock City Running for Ronald).

Everyone have a wonderful day!

Hello everyone

I am at work but thought I would hop on.  I actually slept late this morning and had no time to check in.

There's this lady at work...I don't particularly like her but that's another issue.  She is quite obese.  It also has been noticed by everyone that she eats the junk food around here constantly.  Well you stock it for everyone to eat and she's eating it...you can't complain....  What they have done is some of the people here have pushed the snack food way back on the filing cabinets so it is pretty hard if not impossible for her to reach (she is also very short...not even 5 ft tall).  I sort of have a problem with this.  I am understanding why they are doing it and what I have heard them say about it is not mean.  It more like concern.  That she's not healthy and she needs to stop before she has a heart attack.  But my issue is she not a kid...she's an adult.  It's her body...her decision.  She didn't ask you to care and isn't asking you to interfere.  I think back to when I was obese and I think this would annoy me.  But then again I was careful not to "pig out" in front of people.  I ate in the privacy of my home.  At work and in public I was "good".  People would remark as to why I was overweight.  Well because when I get home I inhaled a whole medium pizza!!!  But I digress...how would you feel about this???  I guess they're well meaning...but I stay out of it. 

I guess more on this topic...the ones that are skinny or only slightly over weight.  I should take away their fast food because they are making themselves unhealthy.  They could be giving themselves high blood pressure and high cholesterol.  I'm sure they would hate that. 

Well today nothing is going on.  Just another day of work and working out. 

I can't wait till the end of the day tomorrow. 

See you all later.  Bye

  

 

Hi again!

I had a trip to Madison today to see Steve, the PA. He took OUT my drain so I won't have to name it! LOL he also checked some hard spots along the incision. These are probably blood which will  go away or scar tissue. Even though I had to drive myself up there I was glad to hear the hard places aren't serious. Now I'm tired but not as bad as I'd expect, so I am getting better!

Connie

SO glad you got your drain out!!! I to have hard places along my incision. They have never said anything about it, so I just assumed that was normal. It's an annoying and weird feeling. I got more fluid drained today and the doc said I was good to go to Dallas. Glad you are feeling better by the day!!!

Kim