Friday check in

Have considered going to a movie today or maybe to the shore and back to an Indian meal on Argyle but then Tim's House has a gathering today as well.  I may just end up sitting here all day but with my Go-Go girl on vacation I doubt it.

Met a GBSer from 2001 yesterday.

What is the rest of Illinois up to.

Morning Randy.  Well today I have a few things around the house to do. Since I have no one here today but me I will be taking my time to do it all. I really have no special plans for the rest of the weekend. I don't like the 32 degrees I woke up to! Yuck! The temps would not be so bad if the wind wasn't so strong, living in an old farm house and it's not insulated well makes it feel like you are out in it rather warm in the house!

Have a safe day! If you brave going out to the stores today, take time to know you will need to just be patient!

Karen

Karen, looking forward to catching up with you on the 6th. Are you coming by yourself or with family? I will save you seat(s), Let me know.

Morning to you young man and the rest of IL when they check in. I slept in myself today and will soon need to get out of that habit when Monday rolls around.

I will probably go downstairs and look to see what boxes Dave needs to bring up. I will start with my Hallmark musical snow person figures. I have each of them since they came out. Before that I need to straighten up a little bit from dinner last night. Then tonight we have tickets to our local theater group for a musical version of Little Women. They are also going to be doing Annie Jr next summer.

Randy, interesting that you met a long time WLSer yesterday and I yesterday saw a girl on the RNY board that I had known from WISH who had surgery with my same doc group. She had her surgery just a little less than a month before I did. And the weird thing is that the Holy Spirit had me think of her just the day before.

I have been adjusting to eating FAR SLOWER than I have been in the past. It is also nice to see the scale going down again. I have been able to get more fluids in also by mixing 100% juices 50/50 with water and drinking that. I know that the 32 oz that I got in yesterday is far below where I need to be but it is a start.

Later Gators!

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Good morning Randy and the rest of Illinois!

I am at work and will actually DO a bit of work here in a little bit.  I don't have much so I have to stretch it out.

I hate cryptic Facebook posts, but I needed to send a message to my son.  After a lovely week with him, I should have known that it would not last.  Long story short, according to him, it is MY responsibility to research colleges for him, apply for scholarships, get his transcripts and make appointments for visits.  THAT is why he is doing nothing with his life.  It is ALL MY FAULT!  I was unaware that these things were my responsibility.  I thought he would come to us with his choices and we would discuss options as a family.  Silly me, I guess.  Anyway.  That is why I am sad and heartbroken.  I should have known better.

We DID have a lovely day yesterday.  Riley had been with us since Tuesday night and was a big helper with all the preparations.  She learned how to peel potatoes!  We always have Amber's family and a few others that have no place to go so it is always a full house.  (Crystal---you would fit right in!)

Riley  did not want to go home last night but Liv and I have to work today, Todd has plans with his softball team and David is planning on leaving again (I have no idea for how long).  So, I told her that if she really wants to come back out, I will pick her up on the way home.  We will probably make sushi.

I am glad to hear that everyone had a good Holiday.  If you are out today, be careful and patient.  Smile at strangers!

Laters!

Long story short, according to him, it is MY responsibility to research colleges for him, apply for scholarships, get his transcripts and make appointments for visits. THAT is why he is doing nothing with his life. It is ALL MY FAULT! I was unaware that these things were my responsibility. 

He is just looking for someone to blame and you are the scape goat. I suppose he is going to want you to go to his job interviews for him also?  He knows better as you have raised him better than that. I am guessing that "someone" is feeding him these ridiculous messages of all this being your responsibility. Something is totally wrong in Denmark . . .

I am sure that Todd did not do all of the work for him when he received his merit badges while being a Boy Scout? It is time for him to put his big boy panties on. What is Todd's take on all of this?

Thank you for the support!

Hi friends!

It's quiet here. Nice Thanksgiving with friends, Susan Marie's sugar free pecan pie--yum and just hanging with friends.

Quiet day at hme tday.

Have a peacefu day!

Cnnie

Hello everyone

I am having a late start...I slept in a little myself.  Well slept in for me...I got up at 7.  Then I did some stuff around the house.  I am not going any where near the stores today.  There's just nothing I want that much and I just hate crowds and lines and people.  I will be working out soon too.  I have to...I didn't really do that bad yesterday but I didn't do good either.  I had 3 pieces of cake!!!!  OMG!!!  Oh well...that's why I'm working out today, extra hard.

Yesterday was nice.  It was weird not having Amanda there (there was an emptiness).  It was nice seeing everyone.   The food was delicious, the company was great.  We laughed so hard at times I was crying..I had to go wash off my eye makeup.  We drove up to Wisconsin and the drive back at 9:30 pm was worse than the drive there at 11 am...because everyone was out for the shopping.  All in all it was a good day.

One awkward situation.  Amanda's father called on his iphone and for those that don't have iphones they have that thing called "facetime" on iphones.  Facetime is like Skype where you can talk to the person and see them at the same time.  No big deal...I mean it's his family and he has called when I was there before.  What made this time awkward was for whatever reason he kept insisting on talking and seeing everyone there...INCLUDING me!!!  Why???  I don't want to talk to him.  What could we possibly have to say to each other???  I have no hard feelings toward him as far as what he did to me and the abuse he put me through(I have made peace with that) .  But I will not forgive him for treating my daughter the way he does...and for continuing to treat her the way he does.  If Amanda decides to forgive then I will but until she can I am with her.  Any way back to him wanting to see and talk to me (which is weird..I mean I wonder what his wife was thinking).   The last time we talked was about 6 years ago when he was cussing me out and telling how he was never going to pay a dime towards Amanda's college education....and he didn't.  So now he wants to play nice?  I just told Brenda...if I'm forced into a social situation I can be cordial towards him but I don't see the point in making small talk with this man just because he feels like talking to me...no this is my holiday and I'm trying to enjoy it.  Tell him politely "have a nice holiday but I am busy right now...maybe some other time".  I think I handled that as civilly as I could...because I could have been a lot more "disagreeable"!!!  Later Brenda told me she thinks that it has gotten back to him that I lost weight and he wanted to see me on his phone to check me out.  That just made my skin crawl...ewww.  What a scumbag....he is just an ugly, ugly person inside and out.  Well he can get over himself...I have moved on.

Dawn-  I am soooo sorry your son is giving you so much trouble.  I can't even imagine if Amanda was like that....I have been so blessed in the daughter department.  I have said many, many times that God gave me a daughter like Amanda because he decided to give me break after the family he gave me...hahaha!!!  At least you can take some pride in Liv she sounds like my Amanda, very driven, talented and smart.

I hope everyone had a very wonderful Thanksgiving. 

Well I better get going and go workout.  Have a great day...stay warm...it looks cold out there.  Bye

Thanks!  I am also very blessed in the daughter department.  They both make me proud every day. 

Chris is absolutely right.  He was not raised the way he is acting and he knows better.  That is why I am so sad.  I miss MY son.  I barely recognize this person that is residing in MY son's body.  The thought that he is bi-polar has struck us all.

Todd is laid back WAY too far.  He does not really say much.  He WILL say that it is David's responsibility to take care of these things and himself.  The biggest problem for Todd is that when he gets involved, David gets angry to the point of violence (another of his diversion techniques).  Those scenes become very ugly and I think Todd is truly afraid of how it may end one day.

Oh well.......I must carry on!