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Debbie
As a parent educator, I always tell parents that those terrible twos are preparation for those lovely teen years. The teen years do indeed echo thoes twos and threes for that struggle of independance. Also, it is NORMAL for the teen to have many issues with their parents when they are hitting the age of 17 and 18. This seems to be nature's way of preparing to leave the nest. I think you need to have some of that "anger or rebellion" to make that transition to independence easier otherwise, they would NEVER leave the nest!
This is indeed a time when many parents find themselves walking on eggshells, wondering if they will survive these years and have a relationship with their child when all is said and done. It does seem to work itself out. It is not easy. Unfortunately, we have to find just the right balance. And with a teen, that is a HUGE challenge. Hang in there, a few years down the road, you will be looking at that young man and admiring all the skills and talents that he has and how well he shoulders responsibilities. Meantime, there will be ups and downs, struggles and falls. You are there for guidance and support to see that when he flies solo, he will succeed and if he falls, you will be there to catch him and help him fly again.
As a parent educator, I always tell parents that those terrible twos are preparation for those lovely teen years. The teen years do indeed echo thoes twos and threes for that struggle of independance. Also, it is NORMAL for the teen to have many issues with their parents when they are hitting the age of 17 and 18. This seems to be nature's way of preparing to leave the nest. I think you need to have some of that "anger or rebellion" to make that transition to independence easier otherwise, they would NEVER leave the nest!
This is indeed a time when many parents find themselves walking on eggshells, wondering if they will survive these years and have a relationship with their child when all is said and done. It does seem to work itself out. It is not easy. Unfortunately, we have to find just the right balance. And with a teen, that is a HUGE challenge. Hang in there, a few years down the road, you will be looking at that young man and admiring all the skills and talents that he has and how well he shoulders responsibilities. Meantime, there will be ups and downs, struggles and falls. You are there for guidance and support to see that when he flies solo, he will succeed and if he falls, you will be there to catch him and help him fly again. 
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