Hello don't know if this is the place for this
I first joined OH in June of this year. I don't think I have posted more then once here. I had RNY on October 17 and everything went well with my surgery. I had planned on getting active in the group as soon as I could but other things happened that prevented me from even wanting to post. I saw Dr Ahad last Monday and she said that I should share with the group the things that had been going on in my life since surgery because OH was a support group that was there for each other and support each other.
I feel very awkward in sharing this with everyone but maybe she is right. I had to travel from southern Illinois to Springfield to have surgery. For me this is about a 90 mile trip from home. On the morning I was to be released from the hospital I called home to let my family know that I was being released from the hospital I had trouble getting through I wondered how my phone could be busy because I have call waiting. I tried again and my husband said that he needed to get medical information about our youngest twin daughter she had collapsed at her home (she is married) and they need any information that could help. As a Mom I said I will call the hospital and give them any information they might need. When I called the hospital. They asked me if I was alone. I didn't know what to think. I was put on hold and what seemed like forever finally a familiar voice on the phone my son-in-law.All he could say is Emma (my daughter is dead) I began screaming. I couldn't believe my 27 year old healthy daughter (who is also a twin) had passed away. I have since found out that she had a blood clot that traveled from her leg that went to her lung. I have a strong faith In Jesus and know I will see her again. I had to start driving the next day and have not been able to recuperate from the surgery. I know I need to rest but I don't know how. I haven't stopped since I have been home from the hospital. Sorry If this wasn't the right place to say all this but I just had to share it with someone.
Rose
I feel very awkward in sharing this with everyone but maybe she is right. I had to travel from southern Illinois to Springfield to have surgery. For me this is about a 90 mile trip from home. On the morning I was to be released from the hospital I called home to let my family know that I was being released from the hospital I had trouble getting through I wondered how my phone could be busy because I have call waiting. I tried again and my husband said that he needed to get medical information about our youngest twin daughter she had collapsed at her home (she is married) and they need any information that could help. As a Mom I said I will call the hospital and give them any information they might need. When I called the hospital. They asked me if I was alone. I didn't know what to think. I was put on hold and what seemed like forever finally a familiar voice on the phone my son-in-law.All he could say is Emma (my daughter is dead) I began screaming. I couldn't believe my 27 year old healthy daughter (who is also a twin) had passed away. I have since found out that she had a blood clot that traveled from her leg that went to her lung. I have a strong faith In Jesus and know I will see her again. I had to start driving the next day and have not been able to recuperate from the surgery. I know I need to rest but I don't know how. I haven't stopped since I have been home from the hospital. Sorry If this wasn't the right place to say all this but I just had to share it with someone.
Rose
Rosie
Rose...
You are absolutely in the right place. There are some of the nicest and most supportive people you will ever meet here. It doesn't just have to be about our weight loss... losing a child has to be a time when you will need this group the most. I am not too active here on the board but I could not move on today without responding to your post.
My heart truly aches for you. I hope that you are healing physically from your surgery and that the emotion part will come with time. I had my surgery about a year ago and could help you with any questions you have about it and I am more than willing to lend an ear for anything else.... I can be reached at [email protected]
Rose... please take care of yourself... get res****er and protein... {{hugs}} ~Marci
You are absolutely in the right place. There are some of the nicest and most supportive people you will ever meet here. It doesn't just have to be about our weight loss... losing a child has to be a time when you will need this group the most. I am not too active here on the board but I could not move on today without responding to your post.
My heart truly aches for you. I hope that you are healing physically from your surgery and that the emotion part will come with time. I had my surgery about a year ago and could help you with any questions you have about it and I am more than willing to lend an ear for anything else.... I can be reached at [email protected]
Rose... please take care of yourself... get res****er and protein... {{hugs}} ~Marci
"Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me." ~Carol Burnett
BIG HUGS to you Rose.
How awful to lose a child, any time, but especially after major surgery. My heart goes out to you.
You must take care of yourself and take the time required to heal both your body and your heart.
I am thinking of you and sending good vibes your way.
How awful to lose a child, any time, but especially after major surgery. My heart goes out to you.
You must take care of yourself and take the time required to heal both your body and your heart.
I am thinking of you and sending good vibes your way.
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Dawn
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Rosie... Big Hugs to you!
Your doctor was right in telling you that we are a support group but what you need to know, we are more then just a support group. We are one big family that cares for one another and if you fall, we are here to pick you up. When you need to be held, we will hold you. I'm so sorry for your loss. The thing you do have to be reminded of......... you have to take care of you. You have a husband and family that need you to be healthy. Your daughter is watching over you and wants you to be healthy and happy. She will always be with you.
If there is anything I can do, please don't hesitate to ask. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers thru this difficult time.
Christina
Your doctor was right in telling you that we are a support group but what you need to know, we are more then just a support group. We are one big family that cares for one another and if you fall, we are here to pick you up. When you need to be held, we will hold you. I'm so sorry for your loss. The thing you do have to be reminded of......... you have to take care of you. You have a husband and family that need you to be healthy. Your daughter is watching over you and wants you to be healthy and happy. She will always be with you.
If there is anything I can do, please don't hesitate to ask. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers thru this difficult time.
Christina
Rosie......BIG BIG HUGS to you. I am in tears writing this. I cannot imagine what it is like to lose a child. My heart aches for you. Please take care of yourself.....I can imagine that you don't much feel like it, but please try.
The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nore forsale you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged..... Deut 31:8
Erika 
(((((Rosie)))))
I'm sorry for your loss Rosie. It is not easy to lose a family member especially a child no matter how young or old. My heart goes out to you.
Please remember to take care of yourself. You still have family that need you. Like you said, one day you will be with her again, but in the meantime you must take care of you. I hope your faith in God gives you the strength to get thru this. I will keep you in my prayers. Feel free to come back for more support.
I'm sorry for your loss Rosie. It is not easy to lose a family member especially a child no matter how young or old. My heart goes out to you.
Please remember to take care of yourself. You still have family that need you. Like you said, one day you will be with her again, but in the meantime you must take care of you. I hope your faith in God gives you the strength to get thru this. I will keep you in my prayers. Feel free to come back for more support.
Carol
Rose,
You couldn't be in a better place to share this. I am SO sorry to hear about everything that has happened to you and want you to know that you are in my prayers. I cannot imagine what you are going through and please know that you can come here and vent and scream and even share stories about your beautiful daughter when you are ready.
You can always come here and you will find wonderful and caring people. If you'd like to talk more or anything at all, just send me a message and we'll hook up somehow.
Love, hugs and prayers
Monica
You couldn't be in a better place to share this. I am SO sorry to hear about everything that has happened to you and want you to know that you are in my prayers. I cannot imagine what you are going through and please know that you can come here and vent and scream and even share stories about your beautiful daughter when you are ready.
You can always come here and you will find wonderful and caring people. If you'd like to talk more or anything at all, just send me a message and we'll hook up somehow.
Love, hugs and prayers
Monica
Monica
Rosie
Here is a virtual hug for you.
I am deeply sorry for your loss. I just cannot fathom how hard it must be for a parent to lose a child. Your grief must be overwhelming. Try to take comfort in knowing there is nothing you or your daughter could have done to prevent the blood clot. They come on extremely fast. I know from past experience and if it is not diagnosed quickly and correctly it can be fatal. I am sorry you are having to endure this.
You have a lot on your plate right now. Major surgery is emotionally draining. Weight loss surgery, plays on your emotions do to hormone changes. To add grief to the mixture is overwhelming.
You are in the right place. Know that any and all of us are willing to listen, talk, or help out in any way that we can. You need to take care of yourself and your family.
I would love to hear about your beautiful daughter when you are ready to share.
Nancy
Here is a virtual hug for you.
I am deeply sorry for your loss. I just cannot fathom how hard it must be for a parent to lose a child. Your grief must be overwhelming. Try to take comfort in knowing there is nothing you or your daughter could have done to prevent the blood clot. They come on extremely fast. I know from past experience and if it is not diagnosed quickly and correctly it can be fatal. I am sorry you are having to endure this. You have a lot on your plate right now. Major surgery is emotionally draining. Weight loss surgery, plays on your emotions do to hormone changes. To add grief to the mixture is overwhelming.
You are in the right place. Know that any and all of us are willing to listen, talk, or help out in any way that we can. You need to take care of yourself and your family.
I would love to hear about your beautiful daughter when you are ready to share.
Nancy
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