Confidence: When did you start to get yours back?

Confidence: When did you start to get yours back?

So I'm only 15 weeks post op. I'm sitting at 167 pounds for a week now. I looked at my first license and realized I'm 2 pounds away from the weight I was at when I was 15/16 years old.

Though I'm not thrilled with the immence hairloss and I have noticed a HUGE boost in my confidence. Something I didn't expect to happen for atleast 6 months.

Looking at photos taken of me before heading out to the Night Club I noticed a picture of me that just seems to ooze confidence.




Am I imagining things or does anyone else see it? I'm just surprised at how confident I have become so quickly...it's changed so many aspects of my life.

~Heather

Im 9 weeks out and down 47 pounds down and Im starting to feel confident and pretty :) Ohhhhh and my hair loss is starting uggghhhhhh 

You go girl!  That is one of the great side effects of this surgery.

Wow, you look great. Congrats...

Good for you!  I would say confidence is a big deal with this surgery.  Just be careful, it's really easy to like the attention a little too much.  I almost allowed it to ruin my marriage.  Sad but true.  Looking back I was an idiot and glad I had a husband that loved me enough to fight for me and wake me up.

Christina

Interesting you should say this because I'm at a road where I want to leave my husband. But not because of the attention from other men, the same guy friends still flirt with me just more intensely. I'm just fed up with him not taking any initiative in life and I want more. IE: Education, better job, a home of my own, etc. We still rent after 7 years of marriage and I'm tired of it. I'm sick of him being on unemployment for 9 months at a time every other year.

Ugh, I started rambling....but yeah....

~Heather

Marriage is so hard and if you don't have the same goals, it makes it even more difficult.  I've been told the divorce rate is high after wls because when we are larger, we sometimes settle for what we can get because of our confidence level.  Or maybe our needs are different.  Does that make any since?  I hope you and your hubby can work on things and work toward the same goals.  Ever consider counseling?  Does he know how you feel?  Communication is a biggy.  Hang in there. 

I found a certain confidence almost immediately even while in ICU because of the accomplishment of taking that step of the actual surgery which was a five year road of obstacles.

I feel like I am actually at my goal and have to look at myself sometimes to realize I likely still look like that guy folks will discriminate against.

Heather,

You Look amazing! Your right on track to a new happier more confident YOU. Congrats.

I feel like the surgery is such a gift! Finally I felt like I had some control, and that gave me confidence in so many other areas of my life somehow.

I only wish I had the surgery sooner. 


Hugs
cathy

Oh, you've got it alright, baby! You look great!

I never lacked confidence. I always knew I was smart enough, funny enough, pretty enough, etc. to get jobs, friends, partners, etc.

The difference is that I now fit the part, if that make sense. Instead of people possibly saying "look at that fat ***** who does she think she is?" They might be thinking, "look at this ***** who does she think she is?" LOL

Keep on keepin' on, Heather!

Nicolle