Personal Advice Needed

I need some personal advice.  I have a friend who is getting married next year in Puerta Villarta.  She has invited me and it will cost $1200 per person.  I am going to Florida to renew my vows with my husband in March and don't feel right taking another week off of work in October.  I will be taking a long weekend in September for a reenactment.

How do I tell my friend I can't go without hurting her feelings.  There are not a lot of people going because of the cost and I don't want to hurt her anymore.

Besides, after being heavy for so long, even if I was down to goal by then, I would not feel comfortable there.

Thanks, and advice you have would be great

Sheri

ok so here is the best advice i can give i gave up going to my friends destination wedding last min cause of my wls.  i had everything booked planned and set to go then found out i would be flying home on sun and having surgery wed morning.  i honestly could have blamed the surgery.  i just said that something came up and unfortunately i couldnt make it.  she found out after it was cause of surgery ( i didnt want her worring while on vacation or on her wedding day).  i also one had a wedding out of the country that i just said i couldnt afford to go and that i wish i could but just couldnt.  that expect peope not to go when people plan destination weddings kinda written in stone that not all will travel.  dont stress be honest let her know of scheduled paid vacations that prevent you from attending. good luck

Sheri, Just tell her the truth. That you can only take 1week off  and you are going to Florida in March. Then, tell her you are going to welcome them home with a nice evening at your house or wherever and get them a nice gift too.

I am sure she will understand, and frankly, if she doesn't she really isn't a friend.

Lisa

Sheri,

I agree with the others.  I was recently informed that my wife's cousin will be getting married in June and they've chosen Italy.  The cousin is a doctor so the money isn't a problem for her, but the rest of the family will have some difficulty paying for travel to the destination.  My wife and I will not be able to attend and that's just the way it is.  Although I understand the romance and excitement of a destination wedding, they don't take into consideration all the expense and trouble it takes for others to attend.  I always thought the exotic destination was something to do with the honeymoon!  But I feel absolutely no guilt in having to tell a friend or relative who has chosen a destination wedding, I simply cannot justify it in my budget (either due to time or expense).  If your friend doesn't understand that, she'll just have to deal.  Or she can pick up the expense for you!

Paul 

you know, to some degree I think your friend HAS to know that a lot of people will probably not come because of the cost and time off of work. This is something that is to be expected with a destination wedding. I would just tell her that the cost and time off of work are an issue and that you will not be able to make it.