Need to vent

I take my lunch to work everyday, so the one day I decide to eat out today, I had to hear it from my father.  I went to Quiznos and had one of their flat bread sandwiches.  I got the one with salami.  I am tired of eating chicken and turkey, so I wanted something different.  While I was at my desk eating, my father asked me what kind of meat was in the sandwich.  I told him and he says "You can't eat that after your surgery".  I kindly replied I can eat whatever I want. 

I purposely had the surgery I did so I did not have to worry about dumping and other issues.  I am allowed to eating different things once in a while.  Sometimes I wish people would butt out and leave me alone.  I don't know if he was trying to help or if he was being a jerk.  He was in a bad mood today.

Thanks for listening, I just needed to vent

Sheri

I would not sweat it.. He probably was thinking turkey or chix is a healthier choice then salami.  In my mind it is too but I do understand that we get bored with the same ole stuff and it's ok to  try something else in moderation.  I find people analyzing what I eat everytime I put something into my mouth if they know I've had wls.  It is what it is.

I would hope he was just being concerned and trying to help.  I too know what you mean about butting out.  Every time I talk to my mother on the phone she asks me how much I weigh.  Oh my go**** drives me crazy.  I want to reply back.. and you weigh how much but I just let it go

Hang in there.. You did the right thing by venting here.
Christina

I have people analyzing what I eat at work sometimes. 

Today work supplied the food for us for lunch.  It was roast beef sandwiches and other sides.  I had the roast beef (no bread) and some pickles.  I had people asking me why I'm not eating bread.  I just tell them the truth.  My surgeon frowns upon eating carbs the first year after surgery.  And although I don't always follow it to the T...I still try.  So the problem I have is people telling me "oh it's OK have some bread"  the last thing I need is people encouraging me to cheat...and I tell them that. 

I wish people would butt out. 

Thanks Christina and Crystal.  I don't know if I was being super-sensitive today and just overly tired and rundown, or what.  Thanks for the words of encouragement.  I feel better now, although I was so mad, I had icecream after dinner.

Tomrrow is another day. 

Sheri

you are an adult you eat what you want. You know what you are supposed to do and you are doing the right thing. Good for you for mixing things up and not getting so tired of the same ol same ol that you went on a binge!

Well, your father's comments were what I consider him as being the "food police". I encountered that a little bit PO. I just told them that (depending on the food phase I was in) that this is the program my doctor has me on. I have been cleared to eat such and such. . . Then when I was cleared to eat all foods I added this onto my explanation - I would say that this or that is within my calorie count for the day. . .  They usually accepted it. Sometimes if a person was being really forceful I would kindly mention that they do not have an MD or RD after their name to be able to know what I can or cannot eat.

Sheri,

You can take him comment as someone butting in, or a concerned father, or as someone who was in a bad mood and needed something to yell about. But, at least you still have a father that loves you and is trying  to help.

People  still have a misconception of wls surgeries.  I have never had someone  actually tell me that, but alot of times I will stae that I am eating such and such today because I am tired of the same old stuff.

I donot eat much beef, I does come back on me. As well as anything fried. I also will order an appetizer or other small plate if I can't get, fish cheese , or chicken,.

Don't sweat the small, petty stuff, and pick your fights.

Hugs,
LISA

Yeah, I get that from people sometimes who don't understand the DS. With the DS weight loss surgery, there is no such thing as "you can't eat that" either. Fats, sweets, etc. I can eat it all and still lose weight. For a long time now, I can still eat what I want without gaining any weight, either. If that day should come, then I will cut back the carbs.

I think they just don't and won't get it. It IS a strange idea that we can have more choice over what we eat. Our brainwashed, fatty-loathing society says we have to suffer, or eat tiny portions of tasteless crap, in order to be healthy. And people who have a WLS should surely have to suffer more, right? After all, we are doing something extreme so we should have to pay the piper even more by not enjoying normal food, right?

"Healthy" for a DSer means something totally different for "healthy" for a non-op. My family and friends get it, but I think they still watch me, waiting for the piper's bill to come. I hope it never does. (I say this as I drink a glass of milk and eat a giant sugar cookie as I type.)

Feels good to vent!

Nicolle

Hi Nicole,
You are right people think since I had WLS all I can do is eat tasteless food.  They also think that I no longer think about food.  My dad does not understand that my food addiction has not gone away, I just have a tool to help try and manage it.  I eat healthier foods than I ever have before, but I do deserve to eat "unhealthy" foods once in a while.

Sheri