Hello all and I am sorry...

Hey all on the board. I have been away from the board since April 2009, today is the first time I have been on in months. It was brought to my attention by a member on the Illinois board that I am rude and need to learn etiquette on the board. I guess I didn't respond to some board questions and I am truly sorry to all who felt like I ignored them. But the truth is I lost my best friend and cousin to a tragic death, she committed suicide. I took it very hard and was in a deep depression. I signed on today to alot of messages most were nice and one not so much! I thought this was a place for support not to be treated like crap and threatened?!! Anyway I hope your all well!

It is good to hear from you..

I think you are wrong to think anyone would hold you not coming on here against you, but you are missed when you are away.

I haven't been on here as much in the last couple months.

I am sorry to hear about your cousin.

Good to see you again.
Dave

Dave thanks for the welcome back! But I can show you the message and if I took it wrong then I will be the first to say sorry!

Dave.....Below is the message I received! 

Laura, you know it would be really courteous if you came back and responded to your posts on the board (s). You do the same thing on the main board, go in and post a question and then do not have the courtesy to respond back. You know there is a word for persons like this on the R & R board, you figure it out.

OH AND BY THE WAY do not even try to RAT me out ANYWHERE on OH because I will know where it came from. 

Please learn some message board etiquette.  

I would rat them directly to OH. I think there is a place to report them. No one should stand for that here on the boards. I saw your post on R&Y and you are right , support only .

Try to hang in there,

 Laura,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  That is such a shock.  I hope you are feeling better.  I am also sorry that someone decided that it was their place to judge you.  That is not our roll here.  I think they went beyond the bounds of courtesy and are the one that needs a lesson in ettiquette.  

I am glad to hear from you and know that you are ok.  We were worried about you.  Glad to know you are ok.  Post when you can.  Hugs.  

Laura, I am so sorry someone treated you that way. That person is the rude one! There are always unhappy people in this world, but they need to keep their thoughts to themselves.

You are welcome to post as much or as little as you want to. You can answer all or none of the messages here. It's all up to you.

I'm sorry for your great loss. I hope you are beginning to heal a little, but certainly allow yourself to take as much time for your grief as you need. In Rockford there is a support group called Survivors of Suicide and I think there may be meetings in other cities.

Take care,

Connie

Hi and welcome back, Please don't let one person keep you from posting and getting the support that we all need, That person is the one that is rude not you,
I am sorry that they said that to you, and I too think you should report them to OH, as it is not there place to say anything to you or for that matter   about what to say or how to post,
Take care , Sorry too hear about you loss,

I'm so saddened to hear about your loss.  It's gotta be so hard on you.  Please don't let people stand in your way of getting the support that you need.  To be honest, I stay away from all the boards except the IL board because people can be so rude.  I just don't get it.  I do hope you get some help in dealing w/ your loss.  It's not easy to get thru this alone and it is ok to talk to a professional or get to a support group meeting.

BTW, I do think this person that sent you that pm was out of line.  Shame on them.
Hugs to you.
Christina

Dear Laura:

I am SOOO glad to hear from you and to know you are ok.

Please remember what you said, "I signed on today to alot of messages most were nice and one not so much!"  MOST were nice!  Ignore what the one "not so much" said and report them to OH.

It is you business when and how much you post.  Once your question is answered, what more is there to say besides, "thank you"?  We are here to support each other, not tear each other down.

I also stay off of the main board and most others just for that reason.  I guess when there are SO many more people posting, the different personalities don't always mesh.  It is shameful that people do not remember that OH is for SUPPORT.

I am sorry for you loss as well and please take time to heal yourself and get help if needed.  That is a terrible thing to go through.

Please have a lovely day.