Stress Eating

Ok here's the deal.  Yesterday I had a bad case of anxiety, depression, frustration and PMS and stayed home from work. 

I have been doing amazingly (for me) well on my food intake, but yesterday was the first time that stress eating took over.  I had a big bowl of yogurt with some rice pudding mixed in.  (Big as in like a cereal bowl) instead of the 1 cup bowl I usually use.  I also did nothing all day but stay in bed.  I feel like such a loser that I don't have that get up and go personality like a lot of people, or even like I used to have.  I don't even remember the last time I was really happy, I mean for real happy, not just happy while watching a movie or something.  I mean happy in my life.

I felt so guilty afterwards and like I'm starting to backslide.  I'm back at work today and feel better, mentally.  I plan on walking the dogs when I get home and I should feel better. 

I guess what really bothers me was that it just hit me out of nowhere and here I was feeling like I almost had things under control. 

I know, I know, one day doesn't make a diet failure, I'm just scared of stretching out my pouch or something stupid like that. 

So next stress eating support group, I ought to be there, huh? 

Just thought I'd share...and any help would be welcome.

Hi Mary. As I was reading your post I totally knew exactly what you are feeling. I had my RNY on 3/21/08 (also by Dr. Rantis) and since then I have been doing great, but that guilt thing is a real bummer. Stress eating & emotional eating will not go away after surgery. Maybe in the early stages, because you dont feel an urge to eat, but now that our appetites our back, so are our urges to eat. I used to love to eat before my RNY and that will always be with me no matter how much I lose. I know you are scared of streching out your pouch and having the yogurt does not make you a failure!! There is a meeting at Alexian Bros. Hosp. this Saturday the 26th at 9am and then another one for gastric bypass patients from 10:45am-12:15. I am going to both of them! I have not gone to one since my surgery and I know its time for me and maybe for you too. If you want to meet at ABMC for the support group meetings I'll be there! You can send me a private message and I can give you my cell number so we can touch base and find somewhere to meet. You can check the Kane Centers website too. All I can say to you Mary, is I know how you are feeling and I can totally relate. I wish I had something witty or smart to say to you, but I think I am in the same boat as you. Hey...we can all do this together! Stay strong and let me know about the support groups.

Take care,
Jill 

One more thing Mary.... I see you had the lapband done and I know you can go to anyone of the support group meetings. Support is support so who cares which meeting you go too. Just wanted to let you know that.

Also, you have done great on your weight loss!!!!

THANK YOU JILL!

You did help me.  It's good to know that someone feels the same way.  And I also have not been to a support group since my surgery.  I'll PM you later and we can set up Saturday. 

I have kind of stopped going to my therapist because I've been seeing her for a long time and although I love her and she's a wonderful person, I think I need a fresh outlook on my issues, which are changing over the years.  Also, sometimes she talks about herself too much (as I watch the clock) and she was not supportive of my WLS.  Not trying to knock her, just maybe it's time for a different therapist.

Mary

Hey Mary,
We all have a bad day once in awhile...shrug it off....today is a new day!

Go with Jill to the support group meeting and you will see that your not the only one who has a bad day.

Let it go and start fresh from this point on....we are in this together and you made the first step to getting back on track...you came here for support.

When your walking the dogs notice the great nature around you...the blue sky...the flowers....the green grass and trees...the sunshine and thank  God for all those wonderful things. Have a great walk. 

By the way, you won't stretch your pouch with yogurt...it slides right thru the band. 

Thank you Carol, I really appreciate the kind words.  I'm glad I came here and posted my plight.  Oh did I mention I had m&m's in the yogurt?  JUST KIDDING!!!!!

I really do need to go to those support groups, I have no excuse as I'm like 10 minutes away from ABMC.

Alright Mary, you got me with the m&m's.
Hope your walk is eye opening!

seriously, there were no m&m's.  and yes, i think it (the yogurt/rice pudding combo) did just slide through. 

my little terrier makes sure i notice every little thing along the way, while my  greyhound just patiently walks by my side unless he notices something he needs to leave his mark on.  it really is a great way to get close to nature. we have a pretty route to walk too, so i'm outta here (work) and on  my way home to do just that.

thanks so much!

Mary, you are doin great for having your lapband in April.  Everyone has those days where you want to eat like before, but guess what!  your band will only allow you to eat so mch ans it will come back on you. There is no way for you to graze all day.  I find I want to eat while driving, previous bad habit. Also when its quiet at work and no one needs help. We all have our food demons. But you can conquer them.

Today is a new day, let your tool work for you.

Hugs

Thank you!!!  I did take that walk and all 3 of us are tired but happy.  Jill, I will PM you about Saturday.