Why do we feel so guilty after surgery?!?!
I am not sure that I ever felt guilty. Maybe it is because Dave had hisRNY 4 months after me. Maybe I would have felt that if he never had surgery (and he was SMO). I have to say that I "feel" sorry for people that I see in my daily life that are MO or SMO (known to me or in the general population) that need help and I feel that it is not the "right" time and place to say anything. I look with wonder on people that eat massive amounts of food and wonder where they will be in a few years. I guess it is because we are 5+ years out.
Chris
Open RNY May 7
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Hi Chris! Thank you for responding to my post. It really means a lot to me to get the support that I have had on OH. Thats great that you have never felt guilty. I admire that about you, but the guilt is something that even doctors have told me is normal and almost everyone feels it at one point in time. It gives me hope to hear you say you are 5+ years out and really have never felt that "guilt" :) I am SO happy about my RNY and I would never change it for anything. I totally understand what you mean about ppl eating massive amounts of food. Its crazy how we can think now since our surgery.
Take care,
Jill
Hi Jill as you can see you are not alone with this feeling, I too feeling the same way, I am almost 10 months out and the last two months I have only lost 3 lbs,, I feel like I too am eatting to much, I just don't get the full feeling as fast as before. So hang in their and we can go through this together.
Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!
Hi Janet!! First of all, let me start of by saying...WOW you look GREAT!! You have done terrific!! Congrats Janet!!
Thank you SO much for responding Janet. I really appreciate everyones support. It really means a lot to me to have suppport for my new friends. You are right, we can ALL go through this together. I know some people say they have not felt this way before and I admire that, but woah...this head crap is very difficult at times. Thanks again Janet for your response! I hope all is well and you are having a good day.
Take care,
Jill
Thank you Jill, and I just looked at you pic, and you too are looking great, , and have done very well,
Success begins with wise choices I make,I will not let noncompliance be my mistake, The surgery I had was to assist me in changes. My compliance is for a success long range, So I will think before I decide to cheat. Remember the goals I want to meet. For this surgery is not something I was force to do It was what I wanted for a healthy life!
thank you Janet! 
Hi Jill! I always start by looking at your beautiful picture. Then I wonder what it would have been like to know you when you were trapped inside the body you used for so many years. I'll never get that opportunity because I am absolutely sure you are done with that disguise! But what I really want to say is that we are not, and never have been FAT people! This is obvious to any of us that travel this road. We are people that used weight as a hiding place for many other problems in our lives. But as I've said so many times before, we are the winners who found the strength to break away from those hiding places and actually work on having phenominal lives! It is a long and often hard path we are on. Every day is filled with many successes and often many set backs. But no matter how you judge each day, over all you are much further along on that path than most will ever get! I think of it as two steps forward and one step back. Unfortunately, this cruel world has told us over and over again that we are failures. We've all bought into the quick fixes that always fail. We all have a history of trying different solutions without success. But if you are on this board and working your plan, you haven't failed this time! And I promise you that you won't!!! If you look at the rate of success for WLS, it's very high! Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem, TOPS, Atkins, etc... all have amazingly low rates of long term success. Of course I can't help but think of how profitable those organizations are! But I digress... You are a winner! Get use to it! The old tapes are running constantly through your mind telling you that you will fail. But after a while, you will learn to laugh at those tapes, because they will be proven wrong! I use to own a car that would tell me that my door was ajar (if the door was open). I would argue with the car (okay, I'm a sick puppy), and tell the car that the door was a door, not a jar! I'm going to say it again, you are a winner and you are beautiful!!! You have succeeded and will continue going down a new path that is the life you have chosen and deserve! Celebrate that success and tell those guilt voices that they are old tapes that don't fit anymore! Look in the mirror if you need proof. If it blooms like a flower, smells like a flower, looks like a flower, and feels like a flower, put it in a vase and enjoy it! The one thing we need to practice is acceptance of our new lives. We will gain a pound every now and then and then we will lose it. If we start gaining pounds and creeping back to our old bodies, we'll catch ourselves and get back on the program. That's how winners work! And the greatest part is that we have each other to coach and support the process! We are so afraid of those old voices, that we walk around in guilt for just going through the normal processes of life. How silly is that???? So let me say it one more time, you are WINNER and you are BEAUTIFUL!!! The mirror doesn't lie! Paul
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