Rant

My daughter came home from school today after telling her reading teacher i had the lap band, she tells everyone because she is so worried about the staples and how im doing during the day while she is at school, and asked me if i was going to be embarrased by my scars. Apparantly her reading teacher, who is quite old, and stick skinny, asked her if id be embarrased, and she would never do such a thing because she couldnt wear a bikini in public and stand people to see she had scars on her body. She said she could never live with herself knowing she had such scars. She made a big deal about scaring, and vanity. My daughter has a couple of prominent scars from when she was very little and got hurt believing she was invincible on her leg, and regardless of all of this i have tried to instill in her that the outside doesnt matter and how you treat and relate to others is what does matter. My daughter is nine and believes that you should accept yourself for how you are. Her teacher made her feel bad about my scars and question her own on her leg. I am so offended at this, I am not even sure how to approach it. I am going in to the school tomorrow and have a conference with the principal and the teacher. The damage has been done, there isn't really anything she can say to fix what she started, but i want her to know that i am deeply offended and disgusted at her remarks. She acted like i wanted this to be skinny and vain, I decided to do this surgery when i couldnt keep up with my child on a hike and had to go back to the car, and my daughter cried because her fun was cut short. It broke my heart that i was too fat and out of shape to walk a trail in giant city park, and that my body condition was to the point that it was interfering with a normal life a child should have.  I cant count the times i cried because i couldnt get on a bike with my daughter, or rollerskate or anything. I feel like i have to justify everything that is wrong with me because of my weight and that isnt fair. Ok i feel a little better getting that out. Now on to tomorrow and this terrible teacher.

Dear, Dear Kelley, If the teacher is over 30 she shouldn't be wearing a bikini anyway. What scars, the little, less then 1 inch ones on the top area of the stomach? I have larger ones then that made from falling and scraping my knees. If this teacher is aware of your childs scarred legs, then this was malice on her part and almost child abuse (verbally) toward your daughter.    Your reasons for having wls is not for vanity. You had it for you, and your health. Someone that is thin will never understand why you had it in the first place.  Have a good day.

Hugs LISA

wow that make me mad just reading it! You are doing the right thing in 2 way the teacher will see what her behavior was and that it needs to be corrected. 2 it shows your child that you stand behind your belifes that beauty is in the inside and her teacher was wrong. good for you for taking a stand dee

I went and spoke with the teacher and principal. The teacher says it was a misunderstanding, she made a joke about me not being able to wear a bikini and my daughter took it out of context. My daughter said that isnt so, I found that there was no sense arguing with her, the look of guilt on her face was enough for me. she appologized for any offense i took, which really doesnt matter to me because i know how she really felt, and i made it very clear that i would take serious further action should any negative behavior toward my daughter occur because she told me what was said. The ignorance and arrogance of some people is astounding. My dad had stents put in today and i had to take time away from the hospital to deal with that mess,  its been a long day and its only 4pm. back to the hospital i go, hope you all have a good evening.