Opposition and my decision

I'm sure I'm not the only one who ever experienced opposition to the decision to have WLS. It's a downer to say the least. Nearly everyone I know has an opinion and usually it's not a supportive one and they all feel they should share the horror stories they have heard. Outisde of my immediate family, everyone is why would you do that? I had to explain to mom tonight that this was a not a decision made lightly and for frivolous reasons. I'm not doing this to be a beauty queen. Truth is, my health is involved. My mother is having complications from COPD and has high blood pressure. My father has high blood pressure, high cholesterol and is bordering on the line of diabetes. My grandfather died from a heart attack related to an enlarged heart and unmedicated high blood pressure. My other grandparents all died of cancer. I don't want to be that way. I want to be healthy and be here for my children and grandchildren when they come along. I just wish they could and would understand that at this point the benefits of surgery far outweigh the risks.  Well, just venting and I am so very glad my husband is with me in this. It doesn't mean neither one of us is scared because frankly, we're both scared to death but we know what is best for me at this point and he is there beside me all the way. Thanks for listening. Beth

The decision to have WLS is a very difficult and private one.  You are the only one who can decide what is the best solution for you. Saying that, I think that's why I chose not to share my decision with anyone except my immediate family and my best friend.  I know they would be concerned but would support my decision. After the fact, I didn't care who knew.  But I felt there were so many emotions attached to what I had planned to do that I didn't need anyone messing with my head. So that's what I did. Sorry your gettiing a rough time from folks.  But remember, their opinion doesn't matter one bit.  Only your's matters.

Thank you, Ronna. I have only told one sister, my brother, my parents and a very close family friend (who is supportive of this) outside of my husband and daughters. I assured them the doctor is in total agreement with me and that this is the right decision. I think it is just hard for them to accept for fear of complications and horror stories they have heard. They'll come around but right now, they are scared, too. It is surgery. I understnad their fears but I need their support not their fears right now. I hope that makes sense.  I totally agree with your approach and you are right. I am who matters in this not them.  Beth

If anyone asks you why you are doing this, my stock answer was one of two. I am doing this for me, not you, and why would you want to know this? . Hugs on your decision to make yourself healthy.

I know it's scary stuff but for me, it was the right decision.  I'm so grateful I had the surgery.  I have absolutley no regrets other then not checking into it sooner. Don't forget we are here to support you so lean on us if you can't get it from your freinds and family. Cheers to a healthier, happier you!  Christina

Beth Sorry that people are giving you trouble but their is always someone that will have something to say, You are doing this for YOU not for them, do listen to the listen to you heart,  Good luck with you journey