I Cried So Hard I Got Sick

Oh, the stress that happened today dealing with my insurance company and Maggy at the surgeon's office has me stressed, frustrated, and totally depressed.  I am trying to be strong, but I am just to the point that I am at a loss as to what to do. Ok, I have no problem with all these things that the insurance company is now requesting.  I would have to do them anyways.  But, I have insurance saying one thing, and the surgeon's office saying something else.  I now waiting to get clarification regarding the Pulmonologist, that they use and if that dr. is a Tricare provider.  Which, by looking at the provider listing, there is non in either Arlington Heights or Elk Grove Village.  If this is the case, I may have to go back to the Navy hospital for this, and that means getting an appointment with my PCM which I have a good feeling that won't be until after Thanksgiving.   The issue that has me all stressed out is the nurse reviewing my file asked why I had not been treated with drugs for hypertension?  I guess it is not serious enough for it, but there are several people in my family that has it.  This and depression is the only comorbidities I have.  I have broken down now thinking they are not going to approve me and that I will never be able to get the surgery and I will have to face the rest of my life being obese, depressed, and taking all these drugs.  I have cried so hard I made myself sick. My husband while he is supportive does not get the fact I want to fit into my clothes again, I want to enjoy sex again,  I just want to be a human again.  I am to the point where I am all alone with no one to talk to and I want to disappear. I am all alone....

Wendi, sweetheart, pleaes know that you are NOT alone!  We are here for you.  I cannot even imagine what you are feeling, but just know that it will all work out.  Like everyone here always says, DO NOT give up!!  The insurance companies suck.  I used t work with pre certing surgeries for an ob/gyne and let me tell you, it's not easy. Come here to vent any time you'd like or PM me if you want.  I will be here to talk to and even if you ever want to talk, let me know and I will give you my number. We love you here and while we also support you, WE understand that you want to fit into clothes and enjoy not only sex, but life!!

Oh Wendi!!!! [[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[[BIG HUG]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]] You are ABSOLUTELY NOT ALONE!!!!!  We are all here for you, and I for one, have been right where you are.  I remember it very well.  There was a point where I thought that the surgery would never happen, but I just had to keep at it.  I understand completely how lost you feel/felt. Hopefully, you got a decent night's rest and are ready to face a new day.  PLEASE do not let these "bumps in the road" get to you.  Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and eventually, you will get to the end of the road. I AM sorry to hear of this, but please don't EVER feel alone!

((((Wendi)))), I too have been their crying in all, just don't give up, If I had I would have never got mine done, from the start, the Ins comp told my Dr. Office that they did not cover that kind of surgery at all, come to fine out the dr. office just got the wrong person when they called ,If I had taked the no answer without question  I would not had the surgery, so please don't give up, it will all work out and we are all here for you.

Wendi Sweetie, You are not alone.  We are here and pulliing for you.  I remember fighting with the insurance company too and the stress involved although at this point it is a distant but still unpleasant memory. If you have to go to a TriCare doc then go to a Tricare doc, just do what needs to be done. And as long as your BMI is 40+ the co-morbidies are just icing on the cake (see I made a funny) they help but you can get approved with none. Hang in there, be presistant and be on the phone with them daily.  IT WILL HAPPEN FOR YOU!!!