Lost mother 7-20, I have now lost too much wt. HELP

My name is Barb my mother came to visit me for the summer on 6-6 of this year. On 6-23 she became ill and went into the hospital. She was on Oxygen 24/7 because of her 3rd stage emphysema and at that time developed a slight pneumonia. So we went into the hospital and later discovered many many other problems no one ever knew about. Bowel obstructions bad heart and so on.  She was hospitalized for 27 days and died in hospice on July 20th.  Being her only daughter here in this state I was at the hospital day and night with her.  I could not leave her.  After her death was worse because of the depression.  I was not hungry was not eating right and I went from a stable 140 pounds to 128 pounds.  Honestly I look awful at a small frame person of 5 5.  Food has bothered my stomach since my pannecullectomy almost a year ago which is another issue.  But what I want to know is what can I do to put this weight back on.  Please don't tell me to drink ensure.  I am desperate because I have to fly back to Arkansas on the 3rd of October and bring her ashes back to the rest of my family who is meeting me there where she and my sisters and two brothers lived.  I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.  I JUST CAN'T SEEM TO PUT THIS WEIGHT BACK ON HELP....  SINCERELY, BARB.  Please email me at [email protected]  thank you.

Hi Barb - I'm very sorry to hear about your loss, it's difficult enough to face but when you face it alone it must be so, so hard and I can understand how you dropped so much weight.  I really don't have any good answers other then try to increase your calories.  I've read that over and over on the main board when someone gets below goal, they need to increase there food intake and coloric intake.  Have you talked to your surgeon about your problem w/ food after the pannecullectomy?  That just does not sound right.  You may also want to seek counceling to help with the greiving process.   Hugs to you. Christina

Thank you Christina for Replying. Yes I have talked to my doctor about this problem, and I think he is now taking me seriously.  We are going to talk soon about it.  I am increasing calories, protein shakes and doing the best I can.  So you say you have heard this problem before of going below your goal?.  That's reassuring.  I was doing so good at 140.  It is so amazing what stress does to your body. Thank you and Dee for your thoughts. Barb S.

Just wanted to say I was sorry Barb, and have the same suggestions as Christina. Dee

Hey Barb.. Here is a post from Wanda from the main board this morning.. She is still losing and is having trouble gaining.  A lot of people are going thru the same thing you are.  Maybe you can post on the main board and get some answers or support.  She's down to 109 and her goal was 135.  I think a lot of hers is stress related due to some marital problems but there may be more to it.  Here is the link to her post this am.  I sure hope you get some answers from your surgeon. http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/amos/a,messageboard/action ,replies/board_id,4856/cat_id,4456/topic_id,3401828/ Christina

I am so very sorry to hear about you losing your mother. I will keep you in my prayers for your heart and your body to heal quickly.